r/LGBTQpakistan

So recently I read a few posts about a dating gc on insta in this sub by the guy whose insta is some "Chandler_bing2004" typo name

So I hought I should join and that GC is literally anything but a dating gc

First there were minors like aged 16 and 17 and when the admin was called out he said it's not a dating gc anymore

They make rape jokes there jokes about Epstein and what not

Also the admin himself is shady he makes quite a posts here so I now know his id here ( something like "awkwardswim") he sends his ex bf pics in that GC revealing their identity in front of whole bunch of people from literally whole pakistan some will make stickers of them make fun ai videos and what not

Also the admin guy again after hookups posts pics of his hookups there revealing their identity like it's some fun thing

One more thing the bunch of weirdos who dominate that GC they have picked one guy who was also in that GC but left now . They have circulated his pic throughout whole GC cz he sent his pic to one of them and made a mistake of not deleting it afterwards

So for your own safety and sanity I would say stay away from that GC

I'm 22 from Lahore. Always been lean, and lately I really want to embrace the femboy side of me.

But everyone I knew has ghosted me. No friends left. Going through this alone is hard.

Just posting to find some genuine people who get it... someone to talk to, share advice, or just be friends with.

DM me if you're out there. Could really use a friend right now.

There’s another subreddit, specifically for finding hookups. I’m curious as to how safe it is.

Have heard of horror stories where the police pretends to want to meet but then tries to intimidate and take bribes.
Moreover, what’s the deal with so many posts form people in LUMS?

Hie all,, This will be the sad post..

I am 25F, lesbian and closet fully from LHR. Nobody knows about me nor I want anyone to know about me because I know what society actually thinks about people like us. I dont want that trauma of society me judging every f day. But I am here to share the feeling with you guys because my heart is really full. I spoke to this girl from reddit, very nice funny in her own way, her way of talking, motivating and talking respectfully has made a big impression on me. I dont know her but I think about her. I have no guts to even send her a mesg. I spoke to her last time and she told me she likes someone else., my heart shattered into pieces really.

I still cant stop thinking about her. I have talked to many people ngl but why her, why?

Plz donot DM me with some BS. And especially guys I will know thats you so please stay awayyyyyy

I couldn't think of a title, so here it goes.

I'm a gay guy from Karachi, and I currently go to a place—not regularly, but often enough. There's a bakery behind it where I usually wait to get a bike ride through the apps. Now, there's this hot guy across the street, probably the shopkeeper, who seems to be in his 20s. He looks older than me, but still young. He often stares at me, and whenever I get there, he's usually sitting in his chair inside the shop. But the moment he sees me, he gets closer to the glass door or comes outside and just looks at me, sometimes pretending to be on his phone.

I do the same thing. I sit on the bike across the street (it's not my bike, btw 😭). Today, I deliberately stood across the street again. This time, he didn't come outside, but I know he got up from his chair and stood next to the glass door, looking at me. I looked back at him but immediately looked away and pretended I was on a call or scrolling through my phone.

Also, I was wearing a black shirt and black trousers—the kind of outfit I usually wear to the gym. I'm not built or anything, though 😭.

Like, in an ideal world—not Pakistan—I would just go into the shop and see where things go. But damn, he was so hot and exactly my type, which is rare for me to find IRL. And he seems to show some interest in me too, although I don't know if I'm just making it all up in my head.

I've never dated a guy before or had a hookup, so I don't really know how to read these things.

I don't even know why I'm writing this confession. I kept it vague to protect my identity, so sorry about that. I know this might come across as creepy from my side, but his attention was definitely welcome.

This doesn't usually happen to me. Well, it happens, but this time I actually liked the guy back, and he seemed to show interest too. On the ride home, I was literally daydreaming about him. Ahhh. 😭

And when my ride finally came, I just left without even trying to get a second glimpse of him or looking back. Now I'm sitting here wondering why the hell I didn't. 😭

I felt like I needed to talk to someone about this, so here you go. Tea. ☕️

The night is long, modern small talk is insufferable, and I am exceptionally bored.

Bring a sharp tongue and an interesting perspective; what’s a dark, unvarnished opinion you hold that you rarely say out loud?

my teacher sent me notes and they had a mention of sexual oriantations. A junior i know, that happens to have used slurs and derogatory terms for queer people, was sitting next to me. I showed that part to him to see how he reacts but he just seemed confused. He didnt know what terms like sexual orientation, homosexual, bisexual, heterosexual etc meant. He didnt even know i was talking about gay stuff to him. He thought i was making a sexual joke because of "sexual" orientation, he was that lost. All he knows is slurs and derogatory terms for queer people and probably doesnt even know that these are slurs. Of course i have nothing against this boy, hes really young and hes either closeted and has internalised homophobia, or he really has no knowledge about what being queer is.

This conversation with him provoked a thought in me that if queerphobic people even know what it means to be queer. I think that queerphobia or any sort of discrimination in general sometimes comes from a place of lack of literacy about us and our experiences. Many queerphobic people are more or less informed about being queer, but still just not enough for them to have empathy for us and see us as equal human beings.

Hello I'm from Lahore, I want to connect with other queer women. Dm me with verification and we can talk! I'm looking for people with similar mindsets. No groupchats or severs, I want to talk one on one 🫶.

If you read through this and want to reach out, start your message with 'waffles'. Won't respond otherwise!

I actually really do not keep guessing if the next person is gay or not or yk bi even sexuality is a spectrum you never know but the way my gaydar tingled today for my classmate it was like YEAH HE IS FOR SURE GAY. This feeling is so funny. I wonder how strong and accurate is other people's gaydar

i have seen this culture prevalent almost everywhere, but oh boy, do Paki men take it to a whole other level.

like wdym you expect a bottom to be petite but not skinny, shorter but not a midget, white not brown, preferably be underage but never acknowledge it, have a perfect smile but no wrinkles, perfect curly hair but not too perfect to eclipse you, have smooth flawless skin but no ingrown hairs, a** tight but not too tight, submissive but not too shy, loyal but not too clingy, showers you with praises but shouldn't expect anything back, expected to spend above and beyond his limit but shouldn'te expect it to be reciprocated, should be emotionally damaged but not too ran through, and of course SHOULD BE EXPECT TO HOST, DRIVE TO YOU, DOUCHE AND LOOSEN UP, AND GO BACK HOME WITHOUT EXPECTING ANY OR ALL AFTERCARE.

and a top is only expected to be masculine enough or have a good body/di**k.

how did we get here? and how do we go back?

I’m 27 and was born female. I have a female body, but I’ve never really felt comfortable with being a girl.

As far back as I can remember, I wanted to be a boy. When I was younger, I would genuinely cry and wonder why I couldn’t be a boy. It wasn’t just that I liked masculine clothes or hobbies, I actually wished I had been born male.

As I’ve gotten older, those feelings haven’t really gone away. I feel uncomfortable with parts of my body, especially my breasts, and sometimes I wish I had a male body. I also feel uncomfortable when people refer to me as a girl or woman. When I imagine myself in the future, I often picture myself as a man rather than a woman.

I’ve also been in relationships with girls, and I’m definitely attracted to women. But I’m confused about how sexuality and gender fit together because I don’t know whether I’m supposed to think of myself as a lesbian, a straight man, bisexual, or something else.

I honestly don’t know much about the terminology, and I’m not trying to label myself based on one post. I just want to understand myself better.

For people who have experienced something similar: does this sound like gender dysphoria or possibly being transgender? How did you know what your identity was? And what terms might describe someone in my situation?

I’d really appreciate hearing from people who have gone through something similar. Please be kind — I’m genuinely trying to understand myself.

Hi I was just wondering if there are any good Pakistani LGBTQ+ Discord servers for us gays to hang out and meet other people. Would be really fun, so if anyone knows of one, lmk!

Hey! So i am a 21yo lesbian and im looking for a male partner for lavender marriage
!! I am not looking for a 3rd !!

ANY GAY MAN WITH MARRIAGE PRESSURE AT HOME CAN CONTACT ME
This won’t be a live in relationship more of like a written contract to show to the family that we are married and we can live our own separate ways, i will take care of my own expenses as well

Straight men or bisexuals who are trying to become a 3rd bw lesbians pls DONT contact me

If you decide to contact pls keep in mind that you will have to share your instagram and identity before i do so i can believe that you’re legit and actually gay