u/Curiousguy11y

I feel like a horrible husband. I love my wife very much, and I am trying my best to be a good and faithful husband.

I have stop watching pornography for almost a year now, and I have been fighting to stay away from all pornography, lustful thoughts, and masturbation. But recently, the struggle has felt especially difficult. I find myself desiring women I consider very beautiful, and I know that this can become part of lust. I have struggled with these things since I was a teenager.

I want to be a good Christian man and a good Christian husband. Our marriage has had some rough times, and communication between my wife and me can sometimes be difficult. We do have sex, although not all the time, and I understand that it does not have to be constant. I am not trying to be graphic; I am simply being honest about the struggles I am facing.

Please pray for me that I can become a better husband and a stronger man.

I also want to make something absolutely clear: I never want to do anything that would hurt my wife. I am not talking to anyone else, and I am doing my best to stay away from lust. But I still find these desires inside myself, and sometimes I do not fully understand why. I guess part of me desires a kind of "wild side," but I know that is not right, and I do not want to follow it.

I think about King David. He was in the wrong place at the wrong time, when he should have been out with his men at war. He saw Bathsheba, gave in to temptation, and then committed even more sins trying to cover up the first one. I do not want that to happen to me. I do not want sin to grow into something that destroys my life or wrecks my marriage.

I am going to keep fighting. I am going to keep loving my wife. I am going to keep trying to become a better husband and a better man.

Please pray for me. I truly feel ashamed sometimes, and I feel like a horrible husband. But I do not want to give up. I want to remain faithful to God and faithful to my wife, and I want to keep fighting for the man, husband, and Christian I know I should be.

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I'm not saying that would necessarily have been the right course of action. But after the 1991 coconut exchanges, it seemed like the Sentinelese might have been starting to open up. They clearly weren't ready for people to come onto the island, but during those encounters they were relatively peaceful.

Do you think that, if those cautious interactions had continued over many years, the Sentinelese might have become more comfortable with the anthropologists? Could that have eventually allowed scientists to learn more about their language, culture, and way of life?

I know there were times when the Sentinelese were peaceful and other times when they were hostile. It seems that a very cautious approach centered on occasional gift giving from a safe distance might have offered the best chance of gradually building trust.