u/CurioussPolymath

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So guys, today i got to learn a lesson....You need to let go when it's time

I'm not very tolerant towards bs and i immediately call out people, however when it comes to emotional relationships, or people who i love, i hesitate.

to hua yoon ki aaj meri behen ghar aai thi, she lives in a different state rn due to job and she came home to spend the weekend with family...She bought many gifts and snacks and sweets, brought a new salwar suit for my mom, a cute frock for me and sandals for my dad....all's good but i can't help but feel pathetic because she's just one year younger than me and has started earning well....and i'm still stuck with the studying part.

Honestly whenever this feeling comes i remeber of how my dad cajoled me into choosing the field i'm in today...i never wanted to be in this stream...wanted to go for psychology and i'm sure by now i'd be earning in a govt job....but anyways, jo hona tha hua, ab mere paas aane wala kal hi hai, and usi mai karna hai jo bhi ho ske....so i'll make the best of it and hope that i stop feeling jealous of my sister and sort of inferior.

Another reason why it bothers me is that her behaviour has changed towards me...she doesn't hug me anymore or even talk to me about her life and problems...i feel that she thinks i'm not good enough because i'm not earning atm....there's always been a sibling riavalry between us over many things, much credit goes to my paa who would dismiss her opinions and feelings and praised mine more than hers, so she developed this mindset towards me of some kind of competition, and i never even realised it till today when she just stood up and walked away when i asked her about some trouble in her workplace. Anyways, guess people grow up including those who are the only ones you can relive your childhood with...but then you can't.

(Also posting my feelings just to let ya'll know that you can now post related to an event that took place or just to share your current feelings)

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Hello people, we are organizing an online music party on Saturday & Sunday. You can join the party through a link that'll be added later, in this post itself. Share your favorite songs, the Dj is waiting for you!!

We'll play music and enjoy together, so don't forget to join. Let's have fun!😋🙌

Saturday(9pm-12am) - English songs [hosted by: u/Parking-Elk9597]

Link to the Party room: yet to be posted

Sunday(9pm-12am) - Non English party songs [hosted by : u/CurioussPolymath  and u/Leather-Anteater9268]

Link to the party room: yet to be posted

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I don't know how to begin with it but I talked to a guy here on the sub and then it all went to the gutters. (NOT A RELATIONSHIP POST)

This dude was younger than me and with younger people I get this maternal feeling of some care you can say, because I don't have a younger brother and i already told him that I have a partner whom I love like no other...he asked me about my relationship and how it happened etc etc ...i thought he was genuinely supportive and happy for me, and maybe that he will find some hope for himself after listening to my story, that you'll find the one when it's time...I was happy to chatter along...all was good.

By nature I'm very chill and I don't usually get angry or upset even if you joke about my parents or joke about taboo topics, I'm happy to share a laugh; this is mistaken for being "open minded" (ifykyk) I have no such interests in anyone besides my partner and I was very clear about it.

Now I know that guys are like this but with this one i still hoped that he was just a friend and not a creep. I shared my trauma with him and i thought he understood the gravity of that. He asked me for my picture and I even shared one because I don't really mind, I'm average anyways so nothing to hide there.

Then he asked me to play a game of truth dare and at this point I was convinced that this guy is just interested in having a nice Convo and genuine interaction, but the usual happened I chose dare and he asked me for more pics that have cleavage showing and when I refused he kept suggesting it, I felt so disappointed and dumb because I kinda trusted him, he was so nice and friendly then he showed his creep behaviour even after knowing everything about me being with someone already.

And he didn't look like a gawar or creep, i thought he's an educated and humble person but God was I wrong... anyways thanks for increasing my trust issues towards men.

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Aaj Mera semester exam tha, first paper, jo ki bohot hi badhiya gya. This is not about it... it's a relationship post, I'm sorry for anyone who doesn't like it.

Anyways, kal se mere bf ka mood thik nahi hai, because uske ghar wale use baar baar bahar ke kaam btate hai aur wo bechara padh nahi pata. Bhari dopeher mai, 44°C mai bank jana pdh raha hai 3 din se and he's an introvert so it's physically and mentally draining for him, i totally understand.

Aaj Mera paper tha to we didn't talk much the whole day, I was expecting to spend some time together on vc as we are in a ldr...but uska mood aaj bhi thik nahi tha and he never tells me what he wants to Maine hi pucha ki kuch time akele rehne ka Mann hai kya, wo bhi sidha haan nahi bola, he just asked me if I'm going to bed...I said not yet....then he said gn....I didn't feel sad or angry I just felt meh! Like that never happens, I either feel sad or angry but today I felt like it doesn't matter to me whether he doesn't talk to me or even feel comfy enough to share with me .... because he never does, I have asked him a million times but he doesn't and today I think I have reached a place(mentally) where I don't really care and now I understand what they mean by "your partner is not your whole life but just a part of it". That's all.