AIO that my husband didn't plan anything for my graduation?
I (27f) and my husband (40m), have been together for 7 years and married for 2 years. For context my husband is autistic. This past week I earned my associates degree! I know it is not the same as a bachelor's, but it still took a few years to get done and it felt like a big accomplishment. I don't plan on doing any more schooling. Leading up to graduating, I was acting like it wasn't a big deal because I wanted to get my classes done without feeling a lot of pressure. My husband was usually supportive when I was in school. Although he did let me down by not taking care of things he was supposed to when I was working and going to school.
I decided I didn't want to go to my school's graduation ceremony awhile ago. I just figured I would be uncomfortable if I went and wouldn't have a good time. This didn't mean that I did not care about graduation at all. I just didn't want to go to a crowded ceremony.
I work at a grocery store and over the weekend I noticed there was a lot of merchandise for graduation. A lot of customers also told me of their plans to celebrate the graduates in their lives. I couldn't help but feel sad that my husband didn't do anything for my graduation. He said it was because I acted like I didn't care, but he admitted that he knew I actually did care. He also said I just had FOMO watching everyone else celebrate.
He plans to frame my degree when it gets sent, but this isn't a big deal to me and he knows that. It feels like it is more for him to show off than for me. This kind of problem comes up a lot in our relationship and I would like to handle it better in the future.
Am I overreacting that my husband didn't plan anything for my graduation? Should I just let it go?