Fundamental Lies
Met with a family member of my ex husband’s.
She’s always been this amazing light in their family and I met her before I met him. She was always this incredible person and we are very similar.
I worried about getting together cause I wasn’t sure how to talk with her about what was going on without being mean about her (relative).
Well, it got brought up and I come to find out that every fundamental thing I’ve heard about his life has been a lie. Every story about the family, traumas, deaths, possible SA, and life story…. It was all a lie or a very fractured truth.
How the hell do you deal with this?
Eight years in total.
Has anyone else gone through this cause in the moment I am still shell shocked. I laughed most of the time from the ridiculousness of it.. I was very young when we got together and I think I just trusted him. I’m now spiraling wondering if that was truly his favorite color or his preferences.
Anyone else have lies or truth they found out they want to share?
Mine:
-He died in collage. For two minutes after overdosing on caffeine. Saw the afterlife and it changed how he saw the world is dark and awful. Never happened.
-His best friend overdose and we celebrated her anniversary. He related to when my cousin overdosed and made it a lot about him. Never happened.
- The SA that happened. He wasn’t in the state he told me it was in….. I really hope this one isn’t a lie. That took years to unpack and get through together…