aio for getting upset that my bf says women are bad drivers?
throwaway account since he uses reddit but he’s probably gonna find it anyway. gonna try to keep this short.
basically, my bf (25m) and i (23f) were talking on the phone and i was talking about a girl friend i had who got into an accident (she was at fault, whatever) he said all of you women are bad drivers. he gives a couple different examples of when he was in someone else’s car while they were driving and a woman cut them off or did something dumb. i told him it’s misogynistic to say all women are bad drivers, especially when men are charged whatever percentage more for insurance just because they’re men. he says yes, men are reckless drivers, but its a fact that women are worse drivers because of the examples he just listed, i told him his personal experience is not a fact, just a personal experience, and to say women are bad drivers based off this example is misogynistic whether he means to be or not. i was starting to get upset at this point.
he said that i’m not necessarily a bad driver but i’m not a good one either. i told him all the accidents i was in were with men, but he dismissed it. he says this is why men upcharge women at the auto shop, he said that when he says women are bad drivers he’s misogynistic but when women say men are trash it’s a double standard. that’s what made me mad because those have nothing to do with each other, hundreds of years of men being shitty has nothing to do with your personal experience of some women being bad drivers. eventually i told him to drop it and he did after he got his last word in.
after this i was kinda pissy, saying stuff like next time we’re together he can get his own car to drive since im such a bad driver. he kinda laughed, i was joking but i was being serious. he eventually asked me what kind of engine a honda civic has? and he asked about some other car. i told him that asking me a question he knows i don’t know the answer to about a car ive never stepped foot in so he can catch me about being wrong, is misogynistic and i dont want to talk anymore. he said he wasnt trying to was just trying to change the topic and he apologized but at this point i was already mad. he said he was sorry for being misogynistic then the conversation was dropped again and he tried being nice or whatever but i was super shut down and didnt want to talk so he hung up to give me space. aio?