Question from a woman who has benefited from feminism
I respect the decision to choose a traditional role. I get that this would make some women very happy. But, I am perplexed by the negative views about feminism that tradwives sometimes have. Feminism worked for a woman like me. I'm grateful for feminism, actually. I never wanted kids, I'm 50 and childless and have zero regrets about that. I don't think I would have been a good mother, I'm not good with kids at all, it just doesn't come naturally for me.
I like and enjoy my job. My career has been interesting and fulfilling. I'm happily married. But if I had to live like a 50s housewife, I'd be miserable. For me, it would be really boring and suffocating.
So, my question is this: Is there room in your worldview for the idea that feminism is beneficial for some women? Not all women want what you want. The problem with pre-feminist life was that all women, whether they wanted it or not, had to be tradwives. In the Victorian era, the best hope for a woman like me was to be a spinster wih a small inheritance.
There have always been women throughout the ages who fought against the traditional role, so I know I'm not an anomaly.
I actually feel that feminism, old school feminism, like what the suffragettes fought for, is beneficial to all women, yourselves included. Because unfortunately, some women will choose men who turn out to be unkind. We all need those laws in place that the early feminists fought for so that we can get out of bad situations. We all need that.
The most recent wave of feminism has gone off the rails quite a bit, but the original intention was sooo valid. So, in this context is there any room for acknowledging that feminism has some merits, even in the tradwife sphere?
I get why some women want to be tradwives, I don't understand rejecting feminism. ??