r/tradwives

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It's basically 2026 and a lot of things are modernized.

Do women particularly gen z believe in conservative gender roles or it varies person to person ?

Do all women want to have careers and chase money. Or some of you are willing to be a loving housewife and a mother for the children of a honest good man?

I know it's hard to find such a guy in 2026.thats a seperate discussion.

A confident honest loyal and caring man who is actually serious about having a family. Not in an abusive controlling manner but a loving and caring manner.

how many of you are willing to be a sit at home wife?

If yes then what's driving your decision?

Is this kind of marriage is appealing to women in 2026? Or does it sound oppressive ?

If it's oppressive then why ?

Hello there ladies,

18F here, are there any single girls who are tradwife-minded under the age of 20 here?

Are you guys ready to submit to your future husbands? What’s the best way? I’m learning

Are there any Christian women on here who would want to talk/be friends and try to encourage eachother in our submission to our husbands or talk about difficulties with it? I have difficulty with staying on track with actually submitting to my husband because I can't get out of the midset of wanting to do my own thing and not what he wants. Submission is very important to me yet I can't seem to always get myself to do it, for some reason I'm stuck thinking that my ways are better than my husband's ways

I'm feeling a bit alone in this. So having somebody to talk to about it and encourage each other would be great 😊🙏

Hi everyone, I've recently lost most of my friends due to my way of life. Friends that I've had for years have decided that choosing to be a good partner and mother is less important than having a career of my own and money of my own.

For context, I am 28 years old and live in the UK. I am currently 21 weeks pregnant with my second child. I live with my partner of 3 years. I work as a waitress part time just 1.5 days a week. I have my own hobbies as does my partner, but my ultimate role in life is as a mother and housewife.

I guess I'm just hoping to find other women at a similar stage in their life to connect and chat to.

I'm not sure if this is the right place for this question, but I'm looking for advice on how to want to submit to my husband more. We are both Christians and believe that a husband is supposed to be the head over the house. I actually believe that women are supposed to submit to basically everything, but he doesn't believe they are supposed to submit to as much as I do. Yet despite that belief I find it difficult actually submitting to him during times of stress or if I don't agree with what he's wanting me to do. Usually its not anything serious, like parenting differences, he wants to move apartments but I don't, things like that. He doesn't try to force me to do anything and isn't some sort of tyrant. Yet I have difficulty actually wanting to go along with things that I don't agree with. I assume it's because of growing up around a lot of feminism culture that it's hardwired into my brain to not want to do these things, but I don't understand how to un-hardwire my brain 😆 Any advice would be appreciated 🙏

Hi! I normally don't make posts so excuse me if I'm bad at this

I plan to end up a triditional wife and a good mother, as all of us are, but since I wasn't raised in a traditional household I don't even know what do I need to know and learn to do a good job.

I have a man, a very patient one that I'm so greatful for, and we talked on some bases but he is a man and most things are lady-to-lady talks.

We agreed that I work because price of living is super high, I plan to be in the medical field.

We agreed to not have many children, 3, once again because world is expensive.

And he told me that he will help me change my wardrobe to more simple cloths which I appreciate because more simple is more elegant.

Now, how do I manage home making with a job? What skills do I need to learn? How to practice?

Medical job normally get a lot of respect, how to not outshine my man while not dismissing my role either? Mainly in front of family and friends.

And any other advice is also HIGHLY appreciated

Hi everyone! How are you? As a moderator, I've noticed several issues and complaints from women looking for a space more focused on them. So, I'd like to know in the comments (WOMEN ONLY) if you'd like this subreddit to be focused on women talking, not men.

This isn't something we've discussed among the admins yet, so it's not entirely clear, but I'd like to hear your opinions. Thanks!

Has anyone grown up in the lifestyle and always been encouraged to find the beauty in it or did you discover it on your own?

What would you make for meals? My husband has a work trip coming up for an engine class he has to take (blue collar 🥰). It'll be me and our 1.5 year old. I'm trying to figure out what I want to eat for that week and it's so hard to decide. What would you do for meals if you were in this position?

Also what would you do with the time you normally spend with your husband?

hi! i'm 19f and moved to America in 2023. i have had to learn a lot about how the culture here is different, but traditional relationships are a big part of my upbringing. i want to find a good man to marry. is it hard to find good men here? how are traditional marriages different here than in other countries? :)

I unfortunately was not raised in the traditional lifestyle, instead I was introduced to it by my best friend several years ago. She taught me a lot, and one of the most interesting things she taught me was what she considered to be traditional beliefs on discipline in marriage. Since then, I have met other traditional people who seem to believe the same, or similar, and I am wondering how wide spread and varied these opinions are.

Husbands as the head of household should primarily be self-disciplined as requiring a lot of outside supervision would affect his ability to lead well. This is somewhat easier for men to do than women, as men tend to be more object-orientated when it comes to thinking, rather than emotional. A lot of their mental processing is also done consciously, meaning it is easier for them to command their thoughts, than for women, who tend to have much more active subconsciousnesses. This is of course not to say that husbands should not have outside influences that help to keep them on track, good ones include your Church or local community that will be a positive influence on you; and of course their wives too, however this one can be a bit tricky. There is of course the stereotype that wives tend to nag there husbands for not doing what they should be doing, and this is in large part true; for a lot of men, the more you tell them to do something, the less they want to do it, which then in turn leads to the nagging cycle. Instead wives should do the opposite and be encouraging and grateful to their husbands, to inspire them to remain disciplined. This is often far more successful.

Now for wives, this is where there tends to be a bit more variety in thought. A lot of the traditional people I have met believe that husbands should be the disciplinarians of their wives, in one way or another. The first reason behind this is that as women are more emotional thinkers, and process things subconsciously a lot more than men, they often do not understand why they do what they do. In modern times, this has been painted as a bad thing, however actually the fact that women operate like this generally is really important for the social fabric of society as a whole, and also for the personal safety of women. Another reason for husbands to discipline their wives is for the emotional support it gives. Several of the wives I know who are disciplined (or deeply wish they were disciplined) by their husbands, all say that they love it because it makes them feel their husbands care about them, and want them to be better, but also that they feel safe from making mistakes, because they know their husbands will ultimately help them to correct them; and also that the discipline can help them regulate their emotions. A lot of wives also like the power dynamic, they find the display of strength and control over them attractive, and increase their respect for their husbands as they will not let them get away with unreasonable behaviour.

I have seen in other subreddits - such as r/GoodGirlsCommunity - lots of people (again mainly women) praising this dynamic for discipline in marriages, but I have not seen anything here, and was wondering what all of your thoughts would be. How do you maintain discipline in your marriage? How does it benefit each of you? What type of discipline do you use?

Opening up more and more to him and him me is truly beautiful just seeing how intensely we feel about this dream life we want.how feminine and submissive and soft and devoted it makes me feel knowing we want and need the same things.ive been feeling more and more confident in myself, who i am, my appearance and feminity ( I've struggled alot in the past thinking I was never pretty enough to be perceived as feminine) but with his guidance and support he's really helped me flourish and grow into the person I always dreamed to be more and more.

It's so touching and heartwarming knowing we feel the same that we have the same needs (even though i knew already, it's just the act of being much more vocal about it feels so intimate being so vulnerable with him.).its made me feel so open and submissive and quite honestly has made me feel like a cavewomen going " mm my man my man" ahah don't know if anyone gets the same but man awwooga

I know this is a silly little post and if it isn't allowed I'll remove it I just am so proud of what we've built together and what we're building towards in the future

I’m currently 23w pregnant with my first. I’m already staying at home but I am growing increasingly bored. I used to love baking and making everything from scratch but I haven’t had the energy for that as I’m having a rough high risk pregnancy and have needed to rest a lot and limit everything physical (including driving which I can’t do at all at the moment). I do have all of the cleaning and cooking meals done everyday always though but the energy I have left is 50/50. Sometimes I have a lot and sometimes it’s nothing at all. And I feel like I do nothing. I don’t have enough energy to do anything physical and some days not even enough for a walk. My hobbies (mainly crafting, reading, coloring, gaming, and sewing) have grown old and I’m doing them so much I’m getting bored of them which is not ideal lol. Open to any ideas that would fit given the fact I can’t physically do much at the moment!

I currently have 2 jobs. 1, I work in a museum
2, I’m a travel agent.

I am absolutely hating my museum job and it’s affecting my mental health so much.

I love my travel agent job but I am barely getting any clients. (I’m still new, but getting discouraged)

Last night I had a breakdown about it to my husband. It eventually turned into him saying that he can try to find a second job and I can stay home. We have always wanted to have the more traditional lifestyle, but I am just feeling really guilty about him taking a second job and I’m sad that I feel like I’d never see him. We were planning on me staying home right before we start a family (right as we are trying) and aren’t thinking of starting until the fall, so this staying home season would be starting a bit before we planned.

Idk, my mind is everywhere and I’d love some insight from you all. ❤️

I’m a successful man with a desire to build a large and family centered home. I believe that traditional gender roles, religious grounding, and strong family values are the foundation of an ideal home.

I am also exploring the concept of polygyny. My success means that I do have resources and I’m motivated to continue to increase those resources. That allows me to provide for a large family and I’ve realized that polygyny is a something that I’m interested in.

I would love to chat with curious or interested women about this subject and flesh out pros and cons, understand objections and see this type of arrangement from the woman’s point of view so that I can better understand.

Looking forward to talking.

I’ve been noticing something and wanted to hear others thoughts.

I have seen femininity is often described as women not being stressed, not working too hard, living peacefully, being protected from burdens, and generally having a very soft, calm life. Almost like femininity means avoiding responsibility and strain altogether.

But when people talk about being a traditional wife, it often seems more connected to duty, contribution, and hard work within the family things like managing the household, caring for others, carrying responsibilities, and sometimes even viewing that effort as meaningful or honourable (not necessarily in terms of being the financial provider, but in terms of daily work, care, and upkeep).

So it made me wonder if these are actually two different ideas that sometimes get grouped together online.

Do you see femininity and traditional wifehood as the same thing or different?

Do you think femininity necessarily means living a more protected or low-stress life?

Are there other differences between the two that you’ve noticed?

Any regrets? What does your husband do for work? Any kids? What’s your dynamic like? Tell your story!

I’m about to be married to my fiance and I’ve realized I get very emotionally attached to him.

I completely understand and respect that he needs to work and provide. I’m grateful for that and don’t expect otherwise.

Still I find myself feeling a strong sense of longing when he leaves for work and emotionally I just want him near me.

I also worry that after intimacy I may feel even more bonded and miss him more when he’s away.

Is this a normal feeling for women in traditional marriages?

How do you emotionally cope with missing your husband while still supporting his role as a provider?