I am typically in the $180-250k per year range, own my own business, and am an expert at what I do, (implant design as a biomechanical engineer), and although I expect to make significantly more money in the near future it seems in this day an age that traditional women would require more. Am I wrong?
I’m 39 F had a divorce. No kid. I’m an engineer with PhD. I want to be a trad wife. I know with my age and unfortunate background of divorce and having an engineering degree might not be possible. So brutal honesty is it possible?!!!
Hi!
I recently started courting with a lovely Man who is traditional and kind.. when we discuss what we want out of life, he agrees he would like me to be a sahw/m.
I'm wondering which topics I should bring up, or questions I should ask, to help make sure we're on the same page and would be compatible long term. Any advice is appreciated! 🫰🏻
I’m curious how this community defines what it means to be a “Trad Wife”.
How do y’all define the term?
Do you agree with this woman?
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DXunDzJAaOz/?igsh=ZWwyN3p5YzUzdTAw
Have you ever created any Trad wife videos? I find them idyllic. I imagine our forefathers were so lucky. In today's world, there is SO much abundance, yet we don't have peace in the house.
I'd give up everything for a good woman's true love.
My boyfriend (22m) has brought to my (22f) attention multiple times that I’m not doing a food job at being respectful, nice, and submissive. I really desire this myself and it’s something I want, but for whatever reason I just CAN NOT seem to stick with it. I have a very outgoing, joking, and almost dominant (?) personality. I also come from a family where making jokes at other people’s expenses is super normal, so I do it too and I’m trying to stop. He provides for me, is a good partner, takes care of me, so why can’t I do my role? Does anyone have any advice? I don’t know why I can’t just shut up and do what I want to do- just the sassy takes over.😭🙄 please help!
Are there closeted feminists and weak simps among the tradosphere we must be on the lookout for?
I have a great provider man who takes amazing care of me, is obsessed with me, loves to spend money on me and I love my life with him BUT he was a binge drinking problem. Drinks too much and makes a complete fool out of him and I when he does just by acting sloppy, will drive drunk if he’s alone, and the way he acts gives me major second hand embarrassment. What kind of flaws are okay to overlook? Is this worth addressing? Do we think he’s allowed to drink how he wants since he’s providing? Idk what to think I hate it
Hello! I’m Someone who enjoys traditional relationships/marriages however I do love my independence.
- Would you still have your own job or career if there are no children involved or even if you can balance being a SAHM but work part time as well?
What are your opinions on taking His last name?
Me personally: when I do get married, I'd like for my wife to take my last name. At the least she can hyphen too. If she kept her last name, it would feel like we aren't fully committed and not one.
How do resolve disputes in your marriage?
Whether you are the husband or wife. If you aspire to be trad but aren't there, what do you think you will enjoy the most?
As a software developer, I can build software to help this community. What would you find helpful? How can I help you?
I've already created a matchmaking site. Is there a way to take the success each of us has achieved and share it with the community, thereby making us stronger?
If you think marriage survives on vague feelings and equality slogans, you’re kidding yourself.
Marriages that last are forged when people stop pretending roles don’t matter. When you treat gender roles as optional fashion trends, you get chaos: mixed messages, power grabs, and the slow death of intimacy. If you want something that stands the test of time, embrace structure — and insist on competence.
A man who won’t lead is a liability, not a partner. Leadership isn’t about swagger or barking orders; it’s about making hard decisions, taking responsibility when things go south, and protecting the people who depend on you. If he can’t do that, don’t decorate your life around him and call it security.
A woman who refuses to build the home she claims to love is wasting a weapon she’s been given — the power to create atmosphere, comfort, and cohesion. Homemaking is not servitude; it’s influence. The right woman, committed to her role, can steady a man, raise confident children, and make a house feel like a fortress.
This dynamic works because it reduces friction. One person holds the map, the other tends the fire. One plans and navigates, the other preserves and polishes. That’s not inferiority — that’s efficiency. That’s teamwork optimized for family survival, emotional safety, and long-term peace.
But let’s be blunt: roles only work when both people earn them.
• If a man demands submission without earning respect, he’s a tyrant and deserves opposition.
• If a woman hides behind “independence” while refusing to carry her share of emotional labor, she’s not freeing herself — she’s punishing her family.
Marriage is not an escape room where both partners try to win the same prize. It’s a strategy game where complementary strengths win. If you want a lasting marriage, stop romanticizing sameness and start demanding competence.
Pick a man who can be counted on. Be a woman who builds something worth protecting. If both of you do that, you’ll find the fierce kind of peace only real commitment creates.
I came across a discussion asking what's the male equivalent of women receiving flowers is. The top answer was "a sexual act" by a man and many men agreed with it. One man who disagreed was heavily downvoted and was called a "simp" and "feminist."
I'm genuinely curious whether this reflects what most men actually feel or if it's more representative of the type of people who participate in those online discussions.
For those of you in long term marriages or relationships what do you think the closest equivalent is?
What if you could counsel people online who want your advice on how to be an amazing wife to your husband? Do you think there are women out there looking for such advice? What if you can get paid for this?
It only lets me put 6 options sorry. (This is a repost because I BUTCHERED the typing earlier)
It may not be a majority but it's a notable number! You do not have to be religious to be a homemaker. I never was. 3/4 of my closest friends are homemakers and only one is religious.
As long as you have a working spouse you can open a Roth or Traditional IRA using his earnings and his income information.
I post this here because I always see false comments warning women about not being housewives because it means they won't ever have their own money somehow.
It is best to discuss this before marriage since this is an investment that will help ensure your financial future and involves using his earnings for at least a couple of decades. If you are the household financial manager, which often works well if you are a housewife, then you can arrange this more easily.
It's ideal to make sure your husband has life insurance, you have a spousal IRA, and some women feel best having their own checking account as well. I get a bi-weekly allowance I put in my checking account that I let accumulate a bit.
When you retire you will have this IRA as well as Social Security spousal benefits. If you become a widow then you will get Social Security widow's benefits.