"Not ready for a relationship" *gets into a relationship soon after*
You know what I hate? I hate it when someone says "I'm not ready for a relationship" or "I'm good with not being in a relationship right now" then very soon after saying that they get into one. Like???? What?!?! Why would you say that and immediately not follow through with what you said.
Yes. I understand. "When they say that, they mean they don't want a relationship with you" and that they don't want to hurt your feelings. Well not telling me you don't want a relationship with me, not telling me you just see me as a friend and continue to lead me on HURTS SIGNIFICANTLY MORE! If you told me, yeah, it will sting a bit because I was interested, but I can quickly move on to someone else and not waste my time on something that's never going to happen, but instead, you give me false hope that we are slowly becoming a friends to lovers relationship, but nothing comes of it.
You know what's worse too? When that person wants to be extra clingy with you. Constantly wants to hang out and do things with you, but still say they aren't ready for a relationship. Like??? HOW DOES THAT MAKE ANY SENSE?! If you aren't interested in me as a romantic partner, why are you constantly asking me to hang out??? And to make things worse, we do couple like things with each other, but we aren't in a relationship, but you still want to do those types of things, but still say you aren't ready for a relationship. WHY DO YOU DO THAT?! And when you do get into a relationship, you act like what we did never happened and start doing the EXACT SAME THINGS WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND!
I just needed to vent because surprise surprise this happened to me and it just pisses me off. I don't understand why people do that. Not making it clear with the other person that you see them just a friend and nothing more really messes up people. It legit doesn't make me trust anyone who "likes" me. Spending so much time with me, doing all these couple-like things with me, just for you to go date someone and replace me so easily is a very crappy thing to do to a person. Like, thanks for wasting my time and energy. I guess I was stupid to drop what I was doing to hang out with you because I thought you were interested in me like I was to you. Silly me. Thanks for acting like you actually cared about me. I bet it hurt to forget and replacement me that quickly. You smiling with your current partner must be you smiling through the pain of replacing me.
I don't care if someone here calls me salty or butthurt or whatever. My feelings are valid for being led on for so long and anyone who does this to someone is a bad person. Just tell them "I don't want a relationship with you. If you don't think you can handle just being my friend, then I understand." SIMPLE AS THAT! But not saying that will hurt the other person A LOT!