u/CustomerNo2188

Long story short, I developed PIED and I’m currently recovering from it.

I’m going on holiday with a group of friends, including a girl I previously had a bad experience with. The last time we tried to have sex, I couldn’t maintain an erection, which led to a lot of performance anxiety. Because I was so worried about losing my erection, I ended up ejaculating very quickly as well.

We’ve talked recently, and there’s a good chance she’ll sneak into my bed while we’re staying at the villa.

My current plan is to take 5 mg Cialis daily and then potentially take 25 mg Viagra when I think sex might happen. The issue is that it would most likely be after a night of drinking, and I know alcohol can affect both Cialis and Viagra.

What would you guys recommend? How would you approach this situation?

Currently recovering from PIED and could use some advice from people who’ve been through this.

I’m 29 and have watched porn since I was about 12. Over the years it escalated into more extreme stuff like BDSM, rough and taboo-type content, and I think that’s messed with my arousal massively. Since January I’ve been trying to quit and reset properly. I’ve had a few slips/peeks along the way and relapsed yesterday for about 15 mins, which has sent my anxiety through the roof again.

The weird thing is I can still get aroused from touching and physical intimacy, but to get a full strong erection my brain still seems to want those old kinks/fantasies. A while back I was seeing a girl and had a few bad experiences where I either couldn’t get hard properly or finished too quickly because I got so in my head about it. We’re in the same friend group, recently reconnected, and now we’re going on a week-long holiday together in about 8 weeks.

I’ve actually spoken to her about it all and told her I’d probably need one night that’s mostly just foreplay/intimacy to get my confidence back without pressure. She was understanding about it, but I still feel anxious and keep thinking about the possibility of it happening again.

I’ve tried 2.5mg Cialis and I’m planning on taking 5mg daily around the holiday. I was also considering using 25mg Viagra closer to bedtime if things naturally head that way.

Mainly wondering if anyone else recovered from this kind of porn conditioning/anxiety combo and whether occasional relapses massively set you back or not. Also curious whether Cialis/Viagra helped calm the mental side or if it made you overthink even more. I know alcohol probably won’t help either but it’s a holiday so realistically there’ll be drinking involved.