friend won't respond to my messages for days or weeks but will send me lots of memes and be active on all social platforms
I've been best friends with this guy for a pretty long time, and up until recently I haven't had many problems with him. However It seems like ever since I started attending college (3 hours away from where we live ) he still sends me funny tiktoks or reels at least once a week but it takes him days or weeks to respond to my texts.
When I try to call him instead of texting he'll either not take my call and text "sorry I'm not in the mood to call right now" or something along the lines of that. I know recently he's been busy with working a new part-time job as a barista, and he has a long distance boyfriend that he visits pretty often.
So I gave him the benefit of the doubt when he first started working and he gave the excuse of "sorry I haven't been responding to messages work has made me very tired" or whenever he was hanging out with his boyfriend that I know he doesn't get to spend much time with anyway.
But in the past couple of months, regardless if he's at work or with his boyfriend, he never responds to the texts i send him or the tiktoks/reels that i send him either. It has become a pattern that really frustrates me, especially since I've missed him so much at college and I really want to catch up either through text or set up a hangout with him. but it's impossible to do that when i say "hey I'm free today are you free to hangout?" and he texts me 5 days later saying "sorry i didn't see this" even though he's been simultaneously sending me tiktoks and liking my story throughout the week, so I know he's active.
On top of all of that, in two months he and his boyfriend are moving to Chicago since his boyfriend won a scholarship for a college there, and even though we both plan on making visits to see each other once they move I'd like to hang out with him one on one before he moves since he mentioned he'll bring his boyfriend to future hangouts after they move to Chicago.
I don't have an issue with his boyfriend, in fact, the last time they hung out together for two weeks and I had a time sensitive question to ask my best friend, I had to ask his boyfriend instead because I knew my friend wouldn't respond in time and that his boyfriend would. It's starting to get ridiculous and every time I try to reach out to my friend I feel like I'm being a nuisance and I'm annoying him when it's clear he's ignoring my messages.
I really don't want to lose this friend either since when we do get to hang out everything's fine, it's just it seems like we never can hang out because he never wants to communicate with me when we need to, only when he feels like it. Plus, I already had to cut off another close friend this year and my best friend was there for me when it happened.
What should i do?