u/Cute-Strength7133

My 30F GF wants to "be able to do whatever she wants". I 31M dont see a relationship that way

Shes independent and likes her freedom.

We both like to have fun and in the past have done drugs and like/liked partying. A few times a year, nothing crazy.

Now, her friends became single etc. And shes out all the time. From a couple times a year to couple times a month and heavy drugs and raves.

If i dont schedule time with her in advance, shes probably got a rave planned or partying.

She just wants to be free. To go on solo holidays, party, drink, drugs, whatever she wants, but come home to me.

I want to build a life, future, kids. Be healthy, make good decisions. With some fun on the side.

Am I the selfish one for having these expectations of her behaviour?

The future mother of my children.

I know you cant control what anyone does but this is becoming intolerable.

Am I stupid to wait it out and hope its a phase she will grow out of?

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u/Cute-Strength7133 — 16 days ago