My girlfriend is looking to sublease her studio apartment (The Riverie) in Greenpoint for 1 month starting June 6.
Location: Greenpoint, Brooklyn
Duration: 1 month
Start date: June 6
Price: $3,300 for the month
Great option for someone looking for a short-term stay in Brooklyn. Message me if interested and I can share more details/photos.
My wife (29F) and I (30M) live in an apartment building with a gym, but access costs $1,800 per person per year. To save money, we only set it up on her phone. We agreed that either we’d go to the gym together, or if she didn’t want to work out, she’d just come downstairs and unlock it for me.
In our previous apartment, we had basically the same setup except the access was on my phone instead. Whenever I didn't want to go to the gym but she wanted to go, I’d stop whatever I was doing, go unlock it for her, and head back upstairs. I always felt like health and exercise were important enough that it wasn’t even a question.
Yesterday, I wanted to go to the gym and asked if she could come downstairs and unlock the gym for me. She told me, “Let’s build this new IKEA bookshelf first. If you don’t help me build it, I’m not taking you to the gym.” So we spend 2 hours building the shelf together and after we finished, she said we have to hurry if I want to go to the gym because she had a D&D session with a an online group (strangers online that played D&D once with her before) in 30 minutes and wanted to grab dinner.
When we got downstairs, her gym app glitched and she couldn’t unlock the door. After 3 attempts of restarting the app, she said she had to go because she was out of time and left me there. I was honestly stunned. Turns out we just needed to troubleshoot and connect to the WiFi downstairs to solve the issue. I ended up going back to the apartment feeling pretty hurt. I immediately vowed to never beg like a dog again just for gym access and signed up for a separate gym membership in our neighborhood. Also, when I called her selfish, she decided to postpone her D&D sessions by 30 minutes to make sure I was ok.
Today she brought up wanting to go to Asia for ICL surgery (basically a LASIK alternative) because she thinks the procedure is better there. She asked if I’d fly there with her and spend a week cooking for her since she wouldn’t be able to cook for a few days after the surgery.
I didn’t say this out loud, but internally I was thinking: “You couldn’t invest 5-10 extra minutes helping me get into the gym downstairs because of online strangers you’ve never met, but you want me to fly 40+ hours round trip to Asia?”
tldr; wife can't even invest 5 minutes helping me but expects I take a 40+ hour round trip to Asia to help her.
I wanna get y’all’s thoughts about this and learn/grow fromt his. What do y'all think about this situation?