u/Cute_Arachnidx

Hey

Anyone knows where to find brazilian phonk communities in paris? Whether to learn or just have fun producing stuff together or just listen to some nice pieces?

we recently changed some paths used in backend of client-facing application, which led to our data connections silently failing (due to the backend simply catching the errors and not doing anything with them), we didnt even have a connection test on startup..

so users spent two days entering data & performing actions that appear to succeed (another issue) while the write operations were failing in the background.

the logs arent exhaustive enough & are wiped rather frequently due to some poor infrastrcture choices...

the application is is still in the early stages/we're technically doing user testing, but still its a shitshow and its hard to explain wtf happened to users.

Disturbed*

Doesnt matter if its friendships or romantic relationships.

At the start of any relation, people seem to put an effort into coming off as interesting and intelligent, doesnt matter if its genuine or not, the effort is visible. People will talk more about the books theyre read or cultural events they went to, and any other exciting stuff theyre doing. They put more effort into giving their opinions and maybe directing topics into "deeper" contexts. I mean it makes sense, no one wants to be seen as boring and most want to be chosen as well as the person who chooses.

But yet, when you become friends or more with these same people everyday conversations (except with a select few people) for most seem to be about mundane stuff (oh i did this and that and talk to this and thatm and in general theres less pressure to be or seem smart. It drives me crazy.

Its also like the standards are super high to establish a connection and then all that is dropped. I get emotional attachements makes us more accepting but uts crazy how irrational it all seems.

Im not entp btw but figured you guys would have some intersting thought on this

Un peu de nuance: Je ne parle pas des mecs insistants, au contraire : je parle surtout des mecs qui ne nous trouvent même pas attirantes, mais qui interprètent quand même le moindre geste sympa comme de la séduction pour leur propre ego ou quelque chose comme ça. Ça se reflète dans leur comportement et dans les rumeurs qu’ils finissent parfois par lancer.

Je trouve même ce genre de mec plus dangereux, parce qu’ils aiment parfois jouer avec la réputation des femmes au travail, et c’est franchement chiant.

Je tiens à préciser que je suis bien en couple mais au travail je reste discrète sur ma vie privée. Par contre, je suis plutôt souriante avec tout le monde et assez sociable quand l’occasion se présente, donc c’est peut-être ça qui a donné ce genre d’impression à certaines personnes.

Aujourd’hui, je garde mes distances et j’ai un peu réduit mon côté sociable. Mais voilà, j’ai l’impression qu’une fois qu’ils se sont fait leur idée, tout devient une “preuve” dans leur tête.

Comment vous gérez ça ?