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How would he be different and how would his vibe be different in the film series?

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I've always thought I was INTP, but apparently lately I've been opening up and showing different parts of myself? Is it possible for an initially introverted person to be an ENTP?

How did you are an ENTP and how long did it take u?

(ENTP [me, very basic white blonde omnisexual dude] x INTJ [girlfriend, gothish, sorta semi nonbinary, etc etc])

I don’t even know why I’m writing this. I’m usually a very logical person. I don’t do emotional outbursts, and I always thought I understood exactly how my own mind worked. But right now, I feel completely blind-sided by my own choices.

My INFJ ex and I were long-distance. Things got incredibly heavy for a while. When she was living in her flat abroad, she was solely reliant on me for emotional fulfillment. Because of the distance and my own stress with uni, it started to feel like a massive, suffocating weight. Every text message felt like an obligation. I felt emotionally bankrupt, and I convinced myself that I just didn't have the energy for a relationship anymore. I told her I preferred being alone.

We broke up, but we stayed in touch. Honestly, looking back, I was completely taking her for granted. She still adored me, and because she was always right there initiating conversations even after the break up, I felt entirely safe. I told myself I was "letting her down gently" by replying to her texts, but the truth is I was keeping a safety net. I thought I could casually drift away into single life while keeping her in my pocket.

She kept telling me that I was running away from my feelings. She called me out for being uncomfortable with vulnerability. She even begged me to get on a voice call, telling me she just wanted to help me face whatever I was running from and promised she wouldn't pressurize me for answers. I denied it. I coldly told her I didn’t want to call, that my mind was shut on the break up, and that I had no desire to ever initiate a conversation again. But I even made a stupid "deal" with her that if I didn't reply, she should just give up. I thought I was being the rational, certain one. She used to tell me that I still loved her, but I denied it every time. I told her I could live without her. I convinced myself that the damage was done and that I was completely over it. Then, she actually took me at my word. She blocked me on everything.

When I opened up the app and saw her picture was gone and my messages wouldn’t deliver, my Fi-Trickster illusion shattered instantly. Because I had spent months repressing and intellectualizing my feelings, the sudden realization that she is actually gone caused all that buried emotion to flood my system at once.

Now that she’s completely gone, I’m forced to look at the truth. She was right about everything. I was escaping. I was project-managing my emotions instead of actually feeling them. She is honestly the smartest, most intellectually stimulating person I’ve ever met. Our debates, the way she challenged my ideas, the absolute best times of my life when we lived together, it’s all crashing down on me. I told her I could live without her, but I can't. I thought I was done with her, but I realize I am completely in love with her, and my own pride and emotional cowardice drove her away. I didn’t know what I had until the door was slammed in my face.

She gave me every single chance to fix this, and I just kept throwing crumbs at her for a whole month after the break up until she finally respected herself enough to walk away. I don't blame her for blocking me. I deserve it. But I don't know how to fix this or if I've ruined the best thing that ever happened to me forever. How did she know I was running away from my emotions? She knew me better than I did.

Have any of you felt this way before?

We have many posters and members who consistently question their typing and are not sure how to handle the nature vs nurture vs life stage/age interactions to figure out their type. A lot of posts hinge on unanswerable discussions which are fine but only exist because of a lack of info.

So my question is, what's the barrier between you and taking a proper full mbti test?

I'm not trying to be terse; I was fortunate enough to take one for free a long time ago and observed how my maturation matched the ENTP strengths and weaknesses (I didn't feel like one until years after the test).

Recently, i had a debate with someone. I stood on the point that changes are good and if it was within my authority, i would live a new life every 7 days. They stood opposing my opinion and people clustered around them. What are your thoughts?

To be brutally specific, I just did the math on how much I’m actually spending on cigarettes a month and it’s … jarring. Seeing that number in itself is enough to make me feel pushed to smoking less, but, I know that I use it to cope with too many things right now (stress, anxiety, ironically shame etc.) that it’s just not realistic for me to expect myself to go cold turkey with no plan B or thought behind it. It might actually result in me coping in a worse way.

Anyway, all that to say, do any of y’all have experience with this? How did you move away from a self destructive habit? What helped you cope?

I think in general Ne dom, Si inferior types are likely to be more impulsive in this kinds of matters tbh, ESPECIALLY if you have type 7 enneagram which I do. It’s easy to have rational thoughts about the bad habits and then just say “fuck it” the second things get bad.

This will be kind of a long post so please bear with me. Keep in mind that English is not my first language and I don't know much about the Cognitive functions of the personality types, only the MBTI letters and what they mean.

I am an INFJ male (29) who is interested in an ENTP female (30), I have had my eyes on her from the shadows for a bit of time (about 5 years now, and yes she is still single), and I cant hold this thought in my head any longer, hence this post.

She is brilliant and very successful in her career, I am working on my self to be ready for marriage before asking for her hand (yes, I haven't talked to her at all, she probably doesn't know I exist). The problem here is that I am a little bit afraid of some of the conflicts that could arise in the relationship. Two of my siblings are ENTPs, I love them of course, but they drive me crazy in many ways especially the endless, fruitless, life-sucking discussions that go on for hours and NEVER end with them admitting they are wrong or understanding my point of view (seriously not a single time in 20+ years) it is as if the title of every discussion is "Hey, let me tell you why I am right"

Also, their chaotic nature is something that gets me overwhelmed as well, no matter how much I tidy the house and do all the chores to help my mother, they don't give a damn and do whatever they want. But most importantly, the lack of empathy and room-temperature emotional intelligence (although they claim they have extremely high EQ) make me want to jump from the building's rooftop.

What I want to know is some insight of the possibility of harmony/conflict in this dynamic. Everyone says ENTP-INFJ are the dream pair but no matter how much I think about it I dread the 1,046 scenarios that this could turn into a nightmare pair.

I have some general questions as well, I will try to list them down below:

As an ENTP lady, do you find a man with less achievements in their life compared to yours attractive ? I have many interests and hobbies to the point I cant even count them, but my career isn't that great (so far).

Does the idea of a man who doesn't like to lead -all the time- and make all the decisions, turn you away?

What was the main factor in you deciding to start a relationship with your partner?

Would it be a deal breaker if your partner was very affectionate/feeling type?

What could be the dream INFJ partner to you in a day-to-day basis?

Would you marry someone who has lower financial status? (all basic things covered of course but not so much the luxury things in life)

Please answer honestly, even if it is harsh.

I sincerely thank you for taking time out of your day to read this post! 🙏

I work as a freelancer software enginneer, I have my own way of making money and I live good at the beach, pretty social, smart, I do many hobbies like Boxing, BJJ, I'm pretty good at talking to people, and I consider I have a good appearence.

my family loves me, my parents friends wanted me to date their daughter, an ISFP. that... just didn't work out.

In my teenages I was an asshole. Cocky mf willing to debate everyone. While my friends were banging girls at school I was getting into physical fights, discussions, debating history with my history teacher, causing polemics on twitter with political opinions that weren't even mine...

After my 17 years old I changed, I had no friends in my new school and I was addicted to software and finding a way to not work in a 9-5 job.

I did it. But as I never go to night clubs, I work at home and I just do male-driven activities, I'm surrounded by testosterone but no estrogen to share a bit of life.

I never had a girlfriend, I make sex with hookers some times and when I start something with a girl they seem to find a way to play an ego game with me, for some reason. An INTP girl was like this. When I was actually with my head in my company and projects but willing to travel some miles to go to a date with her, she found many times ways to "make me wait". I just can't play this BS...

After receiving a good money from a project, beating people in a ring and going to drink in a pub with friends, I go home and I find no partner with me. I feel lonely.

Since the ENTP type is classified as the debater on 16p, I remember seeing something along the lines of that a lawyer was an ideal job for an ENTP because they can "debate for a living" and some corny overgeneralistic stereotypical stuff.

I think it would definitely require an ENTP with well developed Si because of the discipline and focus required but also because a large part of an attorney's job involves tedious tasks like paperwork which might drain and bore an ENTP. But I wonder if ENTPs would realistically want to be a lawyer from a personal value standpoint.

For me, while I do enjoy playing the devil's advocate in contemplative hypotheticals, I don't think I'd actually want to be the devil's advocate in real life. Such as being a defense attorney where I know my client is most definitely in the wrong but needing to put that all aside to defend them. Or being in corporate law when most corporations are the ones fucking indivudals over. Could I do it and not lose sleep over it? Probably. But I feel like I would just feel drained and unfulfilled. I think there are fields of law where you are mostly representing the "underdogs" like civil rights law but I feel like those cases usually end up with bigger corporations and the more rich and powerful winning. I feel like law has a lot of outcomes where Te wins over Ti logic if that makes sense? Which would frustrate me.

I have met so many people and the only people I’ve ever gotten compared to are Aubrey Plaza, Wednesday, Addams, and Donnie Darko. Which I obviously don’t love but it’s kind of funny so I’m wondering what my fellow ENTP’s get compared to and if they think it is true or not.