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I genuinely hate having almost no Fi. I feel like I don't know myself, so I struggle with having long-term goals. Does anyone else struggle with the same?

I don't know how to describe myself, never did. Even the people around me would describe me very differently from each other.

It also takes me an embarrasingly long amount of time to understand how I feel about certain things. It's like I can just...change how I feel about things in an instant? But then have I ever ACTUALLY felt that way? An example for that would be never holding grudges. I literally cannot bring myself to care after a while if that makes sense?

Arkadaşlar İngiltere'de yaşamaya başladım kısa zaman önce ve Hatay'a ailemi ziyarete geldim. Bundan önce İstanbul'da yaşıyordum ve o kadar büyük bir sorun değildi, Hatay'a mı özgü bilmiyorum ama yollar ÇOK kötü. Korkunç.

İngiltere'de yemin ederim üşenmiyordum bile, market uzak olsa bile o kadar rahat şekilde yürülüyor ki zerre gocunmuyordum.

Annem markete inmemi istedi resmen gidemedim. Marketin önü çukur, evin çıkışında kaldırım tamamlanmamış bile (depremden çok etkilenmedi bu bölge bu arada), yemin ediyorum 4 taraftan araba geliyordu ve karşıya geçmenin güvenli hiçbir yolu yoktu. Annemi aradım dedim anne gözünü seveyim arabayla in ben yapamayacağım. Can korkusu yüzünden annemle aram bozuldu bir markete gidemedim diye. Şimdi beni tembel görüyor ama maya alacağım diye canımı mı tehlikeye atayım, araba çarpsa sonsuza dek evlat acısı çekecek. Gidilecek gibi bir yol değildi.

Yayalara da yol verilmiyor yaya geçidinde bile, durum gerçekten vahim. Sokak köpeklerinden bahsetmeye bile gerek yok, bir kere köpek düşünmeden yürümeyi yaşasanız sittin sene şu itleri savunmazsınız. İşin komiği vejetaryenim bana bile malca geliyor.

Whenever I browse this sub, only a few careers are mentioned:

- Healthcare

- Engineering

- Accounting

- Finance

- Blue collar

These are, to me, careers that are either:

- Super hard to get into

- Difficult to learn online if you need to work full-time at the same time

- Hard to suddenly switch to

- Hard in general to get into / master

- Very specific in strengths (amazing memory, physical strength)

So my question is, what does the average person do in this situation? I'm not the smartest or the most physically fit (which doesn't matter, being a woman in blue collar is risky anyway) We surely can't all go into these fields, or do them decently.

I'm currently doing my masters in supply chain, my major was Translation & Interpreting Studies (Obviously trying to get out) and some people say supply chain will be taken over by AI as well. Genuinely, is there ANY other career the normal folk can do? I'm looking for something decent enough and all I keep hearing is AI AI AI AI

I'm genuinely getting worried. WTF do I do?

I see many posts about this pairing but not many with an ENTP female and an INFJ male. Ask me anything!

- You have to be financially independent or else you will never be free from the abuse. No, getting married won't solve it. You have to somehow be independent yourself. The way to achieve that is by being successful. Don't pursue a useless passion, don't be like me. I'm currently unemployed, pursuing a masters in an unrelated field and still in contact with my parents because of it. I literally got married and moved abroad but every time I visit them, it's the same. It's really hard to find a job as a foreigner so MAKE SURE that you choose a lucrative field, I beg of you. Make sure you save up as well. If you're not sure you're independent enough, DON'T CUT CONTACT UNTIL YOU REALLY ARE. There are some realities worse than bickering (unless they are physically hurting you). Trust me.

- They may love you in their own fucked up way but they will never like you. Huge difference. When someone loves you, who knows how they will show it. When someone likes and respect you, they have to reflect that. So don't confuse those teeny tiny loving moments with them liking you or respecting you. They probably never will.

- Age unfortunately matters. Their own spouse, family or friends most likely will never see an issue with their behaviour. It's expected from their generation. Be prepared to feel insane, isolated and confused.

- They never taught you anything? Literally do everything they do but the opposite. That's how I survived and managed to really find myself. The only area I fucked up was my career, which I'm working on no matter what.

- It's okay to have a soft spot, it's okay to miss them. You still have emotions, tbh they're the ones lacking them. Why are you surprised or second-guessing yourself when this happens? Let it be, feel it, remember the facts and move on.

- Stop talking about them. The more I talked about them, the more it felt like they mattered. I don't mention family issues to friends anymore, only my husband. It also makes people respect you more, sadly. You also won't hear any BS like "but they're familyyyyyy"

- Be independent no matter how they try to sabotage you. They want you to be safe (aka controlled), NOT happy. ALWAYS remember that.

- Don't expect much from a sibling or relative that never stood up for you. You may lose contact with them as well and tbh, their loss.

- Therapy is mostly useless in my experience. Try it once, then forget about it. My parents refused to continue every single time.

- Find someone who genuinely loves you for who you are. Make sure you don't get yourself into a toxic relationship. You are prone to it, whether you like it or not.

- Try your best to find good friends, don't waste time with useless or toxic people. You need a solid friend group, as harsh as that sounds. You are already behind in life thanks to your parents, don't waste time with such friends any further. This is probably the hardest one in my experience.

- To add to my first point, stop expecting genuine friendships. Unfortunately, you will most likely smell BS way too quickly compared to other people. You will also most likely be too burnt out to deal with them. It hurts less when you accept this.

- Sometimes, they are great parents in some areas and horrible in some areas. My family has always had my back financially. Respecting my boundaries? Nope, horrible at that. It's up to you to decide whether you're okay with that or not.

- Your efforts still matter. Yes, your family may not have given you a good head start but you should still be proud. Be proud that you're alive, still working, still being a good person and that you still turned out to be likeable despite bad first examples.

- Lastly, be slightly forgiving. I promise you, they most likely had even worse childhoods. This is not to excuse it but rather to see it for what it is and move on more quickly. Don't expect them to understand you, they probably believe they did their best raising you. However, their best may not have been good enough for you and that's okay.

I think my story is kinda odd lol.

Basically I was watching Attack on Titan and obviously, I was horrified by humans being eaten. Then I was like, why am I so horrified at this but feel so normal regarding animal meat?

At first I tried to brush it off as "humans are intelligent, we have dreams etc." but then I was like, there are SO many trashy people though, do they really matter more than an innocent animal?

Yeah, odd reason but that's it lol. I just felt like a hypocrite.

Edit: Wow so many stories! I will reply to all of them soon :D

I genuinely don't know. Some people count getting married / finding the love of your life an achievement. Some find it stupid. For some people, getting a masters is a big deal but some people have to pay a lot to "flexible" programmes so is that an achievement? Some people do one great thing then nothing, like one hit wonders. How do they feel?

I'm asking this cause at 25, I don't really know what position I'm in. I have a few things I'm proud of but none of them feel "significant". Like I'm not a celebrity, not an important scientist, not a known activist (included known cause I do volunteer a lot but not at that level haha)

Idk, I feel so...Basic? I'm worried that I won't be known for anything. I wanna be the cause for positive changes but I have to survive first and it's killing me.

Though at the same time, we will all die at some point and while we may be remembered from time to time, most of us will be forgotten. For example, I don't know many artists from the 50s. I also don't intend to. You know?

I wanna be able to fight this feeling but I have many goals and tbh not even having a stable career makes it worse. Who am I to have big dreams when I can barely have a linear career?

Can you tell me easily avoidable mistakes I might make? I know being a vegetarian is easier than a vegan diet but still. I try to eat eggs and milk products for B12. For iron, I'm taking supplements but also leaning towards legumes and spinach.

Do you know some superfoods / recipes that are great for this diet?

I kinda decided to become vegetarian overnight and my husband isn't, so it's interesting haha. Though I will say, it's easier than I expected!

Guys, I'm genuinely so tired. I applied for a supply chain masters and will start soon. My background is pretty unrelated (Language work) other than stock support (checking inventory and stuff) so I think that ticks recruiters off. I don't know what to do. I BARELY have any job experience so removing those doesn't feel smart. I'm only 25. The only job offers I get are terrible ones.

Why is there an all or nothing stance on plant-based diets? It would be extremely difficult for me to be vegan but why not be a vegetarian? Why not have a mostly plant-based diet? (Which is how I want to do it) I know vegans say "it's just as bad" but if that's genuinely the best you can do, GO FOR IT.

Here are my personal rules for myself and I'm okay with that:

- I try my best to have a plant-based diet. I will explore vegan options but if not, vegetarian.

- If I go out with people and there are no vegan/vegetarian options, I won't ruin the vibe for everyone by not eating. I will order something. It won't kill you, I promise. Social isolation isn't good either.

- I loved milk, then tried oat milk and loved it more. You can make small changes and that's better than doing absoluetly nothing. Everyone can try a bit for the animals and the environment and that's OKAY. Changing your whole diet is difficult and some people have iron issues and ADHD (like me) that makes it even more difficult.

- If someone invited you over, you didn't warn them and they already cooked non vegan food, just eat. No need to be rude.

- If you're experiencing health issues, you can consume animal products once a week and that is still significantly less than a normal person.

- You can try some of someone elses food if you crave it. That's okay! They paid for it, they will eat it and if you didn't pay for it, why not?

- Second hand leather is waaaay better than some other plastic bs that's horrible for the environment.

Please don't bully people out of making changes, even if small. Encourage them and wish them the best. Diet changes are difficult.

Why do vegans NEVER consider bunnies as pets? Why do they try to force a vegan diet to cats and dogs? It makes no sense, just get a bunny.

Btw I'm currently trying to have a mostly plant-based diet, I'm not trying to bully vegans lol

I'm guessing most of us are trying to get out of this industry. Problem is, I feel like my skillset is completely useless. I tried to get some certificates (Python, SQL, Project Management, Excel, Supply Chain, Marketing etc.) but I feel like even a business degree holder (which is often the butt of the jokes) is in a way better position than me.

ChatGPT became popular before I even graduated. I had no idea what to do so I tried content editing. After that, I had a full-time AI training job which I had to leave due to relocation (Thank god, it felt so icky). While doing that job, I thought I could go into NLP, so I applied for a computer science online bachelors a year ago and dropped out immideately. Not because it was hard but because it felt like too much work for an uncertain future. They also seem to grind a lot which I dislike.

Then I considered marketing but the fun, creative jobs are turning into AI slop and I feel like companies expect everything from marketing for peanuts. Way too stressful, too many AI tools and KPIs at a time capitalism is absoluetly hated.

Now, I'm considering supply chain. I got accepted into a masters in supply chain management but I'm still uneasy. It feels like I've been prioritizing practicality more than what I actually want nowadays because of AI. I enjoy operational stuff and Excel, the field values languages too. I just wanna try it but many people call it stressful so I'm worried.

I'm making my own game in my free time (I enjoy drawing) and I feel so depressed. I feel like I don't belong here.

I used to be so lively, full of hope, creative and I used to feel smart. I don't know what happened but I lost myself. I feel like I'm slowly losing the will to live. I don't want to live a life without purpose.

I just moved in to the UK on a dependant visa, the only job offer I got was a basic customer experience one, asking me to work for more than 48 hours. Denied obviously.

When I ask people for advice, I feel like they either downplay my intelligence, choices or straight up pity me. I don't have shit to show for a career at 25.

I feel so hopeless. I don't know what to do. Will I ever have a career?

No Idea What to Do

Hi everyone,

I’m 25 F, based in the UK (Skilled worker dependant visa) and I’m honestly quite stressed and stuck about choosing a long-term career direction. I would really appreciate some honest advice from people who are more experienced. I've been here for a month and I'm trying to get out of translation at the same time. Pretty bad combination, I know.

I graduated from Translation Studies and since then I’ve worked in a mix of roles across operations/inventory assistance, admin, content editing, and data-related (plus AI training) work.

I have strong English (C1) and B1-B2 Russian, Turkish is my native language. I've got certificates in Excel, SQL, Python, project management and some marketing. I’m comfortable with structured tasks and working with data, but I wouldn’t say I have a very “clear” career identity yet.

Right now I’m considering a few directions:

* Supply chain / logistics (entry roles like procurement assistant or operations coordinator) (High stress but many options, transferable skills. Almost no interest but sounds cool)

* Marketing (Mild stress, many layoffs and KPI issues, creative fields are going to AI. Mild interest for creative fields but they're asking for too much for little pay nowadays.)

* Teaching as a backup option (Did years of tutoring but the credentials are not international, thus risky. Almost no transferable skills and low pay.)

My main issue is that I feel very stressed and overwhelmed about making the wrong choice. I want something that is:

* stable long term

* not extremely stressful forever

* not too exposed to AI replacement or layoffs

* internationally transferable (UK now, maybe Europe or Turkey later)

At the same time, I also want to be realistic about income and not end up in something that has a low ceiling.

Supply chain seems like the most practical option based on my experience, but I keep hearing it can be very stressful and demanding. Marketing feels uncertain and quite exposed to AI and layoffs, and teaching feels safer but financially limiting.

I’m also thinking about doing a remote Master’s in logistics or supply chain management from Turkey while working in the UK, but I’m not sure how much that actually helps in reality. It's dirt cheap so unfortunately it's the best option for me.

I guess I’m trying to understand:

* Is supply chain actually as stressful as people say, or does it depend on the role? Are the comfortable roles going to AI anytime soon?

* Is it realistic to eventually move into a more stable 9 to 5 corporate role in this field?

* Am I overestimating AI and layoff risks in marketing and other fields?

* Are there better career paths I should consider with my background?

I also tried computer science at one point, but I eventually dropped it because I was quite put off by the intense grind culture and the AI-related direction of the field. I like the idea of making my own game since I can draw a bit, but overall everything has felt a bit disconnected and hard to fully commit to. I genuinely feel like a mess.

People around me don't know what to say. Everyone recommends something different but almost no one recommends supply chain for some reason.

Any honest perspective would really help because I feel quite stuck and stressed about making the wrong long-term decision. I'm seriously stressed out about turning 25 and not having a career path yet. I've always been a creative and patient person. However, I feel like creativity isn't actually valued in the corporate world anymore, it's mostly become following trends. I love teaching but...yeah. I would've enjoyed teaching kids in a classroom but working for the government in Turkey is damn near impossible and idk if I will stay in UK in the future. I guess there's also the "respect" factor, I feel like teachers aren't respected, which sucks.

Thank you.

Hi everyone,

I’m 25 F, based in the UK (Skilled worker dependant visa) and I’m honestly quite stressed and stuck about choosing a long-term career direction. I would really appreciate some honest advice from people who are more experienced. I've been here for a month and I'm trying to get out of translation at the same time. Pretty bad combination, I know.

I graduated from Translation Studies and since then I’ve worked in a mix of roles across operations/inventory assistance, admin, content editing, and data-related (plus AI training) work.

I have strong English (C1) and B1-B2 Russian, Turkish is my native language. I've got certificates in Excel, SQL, Python, project management and some marketing. I’m comfortable with structured tasks and working with data, but I wouldn’t say I have a very “clear” career identity yet.

Right now I’m considering a few directions:

• Supply chain / logistics (entry roles like procurement assistant or operations coordinator) (High stress but many options, transferable skills. Almost no interest but sounds cool)
• Marketing (Mild stress, many layoffs and KPI issues, creative fields are going to AI. Mild interest for creative fields but they're asking for too much for little pay nowadays.)
• Teaching as a backup option (Did years of tutoring but the credentials are not international, thus risky. Almost no transferable skills and low pay.)

My main issue is that I feel very stressed and overwhelmed about making the wrong choice. I want something that is:

• stable long term
• not extremely stressful forever
• not too exposed to AI replacement or layoffs
• internationally transferable (UK now, maybe Europe or Turkey later)

At the same time, I also want to be realistic about income and not end up in something that has a low ceiling.

Supply chain seems like the most practical option based on my experience, but I keep hearing it can be very stressful and demanding. Marketing feels uncertain and quite exposed to AI and layoffs, and teaching feels safer but financially limiting.

I’m also thinking about doing a remote Master’s in logistics or supply chain management from Turkey while working in the UK, but I’m not sure how much that actually helps in reality. It's dirt cheap so unfortunately it's the best option for me.

I guess I’m trying to understand:

• Is supply chain actually as stressful as people say, or does it depend on the role? Are the comfortable roles going to AI anytime soon?
• Is it realistic to eventually move into a more stable 9 to 5 corporate role in this field?
• Am I overestimating AI and layoff risks in marketing and other fields?
• Are there better career paths I should consider with my background?

I also tried computer science at one point, but I eventually dropped it because I was quite put off by the intense grind culture and the AI-related direction of the field. I like the idea of making my own game since I can draw a bit, but overall everything has felt a bit disconnected and hard to fully commit to. I genuinely feel like a mess.

People around me don't know what to say. Everyone recommends something different but almost no one recommends supply chain for some reason.

Any honest perspective would really help because I feel quite stuck and stressed about making the wrong long-term decision. I'm seriously stressed out about turning 25 and not having a career path yet. I've always been a creative and patient person. However, I feel like creativity isn't actually valued in the corporate world anymore, it's mostly become following trends. I love teaching but...yeah. I would've enjoyed teaching kids in a classroom but working for the government in Turkey is damn near impossible and idk if I will stay in UK in the future. I guess there's also the "respect" factor, I feel like teachers aren't respected, which sucks.

Thank you.