What people fundamentally misunderstand about me is that I do not care about any of my own opinions
And none of them are permanent, either! I think this genuinely makes people view me as an unlikeable person, because I have no qualms about sharing opinions and tend to frame them quite confidently. But in doing so I'm *welcoming* some pushback!! Every opinion I hold is a conclusion I've drawn based on MY subjective observations--not complete, not infallible, just something I've noticed with the information I have available. I'm completely wrong about many, many things and just wish people would understand that I have no dog in any "fight" I pick.
I get called argumentative and arrogant and stubborn but I really, truly, just do not care about anything I say. It all primarily functions as a free pass for whoever I'm talking to to give me some new evidence. I'm basically the epitome of that "change my mind" meme and I just want people to get that instead of instantly writing me off because I shared a controversial and/or completely off-the-mark fleeting thought.
I'm not a disagreeable person. I don't go out of my way to offend people. I probably am bad with social awareness and know I'm more than half the problem but, god, I just really want people to stop taking my words for gospel representative of stubborn beliefs I have some kind of emotional stake in. I do not care!!!
I love talking to people, and this makes it unnecessarily difficult and oftentimes lonely af.