Looking for Christian advice about reconciling after addiction
I’m looking for some Christian wisdom and perspective on a situation I’ve been praying about for a long time.
I was in a relationship with a man who struggled with addiction. Being with him during that season was one of the hardest things I’ve ever gone through. I was trying to grow in my faith and stay close to God, but the chaos, uncertainty, and pain that came with addiction made it incredibly difficult.
Eventually, after a lot of prayer, tears, and wrestling with my decision, I found the courage to leave the relationship. It wasn’t because I stopped caring about him—it was because I felt I needed to choose healing and my relationship with God.
Since then, a lot has changed. He has now been sober for over a year, has been baptized, and is actively pursuing his faith. I’m genuinely grateful for the work God has done in his life.
Recently, he has expressed a desire to reconnect and possibly pursue a relationship again. The problem is that I’m conflicted. I’ve prayed about it many times, but I still don’t have clarity.
Part of me sees the growth and transformation in him and wants to believe in what God can do. Another part of me is afraid. I’m afraid of being hurt again, afraid of ignoring past wounds, and afraid that even though he’s changed, he may not be the man God intends for me to marry.
I would really appreciate your prayers and any biblical advice you may have.