The movie "Obession" helped me beat lust
First of all, I want to say that I have never thought that being Christian should stop me from watching horror movies. My recent realization is a big reason, especially because the real “horror” of the movie is the main character, Bear’s lustful obsession with a girl, Nikki, whom he supernaturally makes fall in love with him.
I am in highschool and recently saw this movie with my friends. It genuinely scarred us, both how scary it was and how much it made us think. I was so disgusted by how Bear did not care about Nikki one lick. She acted super possessed and creepy, and he still got with her and ykw. In the scene where>!the real Nikki is able to talk for the first time in months (the possession of herself is sleeping), she asks Bear to end her suffering. He selfishly asks her why she doesn’t like him and then leaves, showing that he doesn’t care about her in the slightest and only has lustful feelings towards her.!<bro.
Nikki is honestly very beautiful and has a cool personality, but Bear only cared about possessing her. He used a wish to take away her autonomy, and that took away who she was, replacing her with some demon that served his lust.
Since I watched the film, I have not fallen into lust once. I just get distracted by the ideas in the movie. I hate the idea of being like Bear in any way and genuinely have bettered myself because of it.
For porn, I just think about how it is literally just using women as objects of lust without the slightest care for who they are. I haven’t even wanted to see nudity at all. Bear scared me because I saw a familiar perverted lust that I think porn encapsulates.>!Even the sex scene in the movie is terrifying, like the look on Nikki's face and the fact that Bear can do that to her, knowing it isn't real love.!<I don't know if ill ever be able to see porn the same way again. It is so fake and just lust, exactly like the sex scenes in Obsession.
Whenever I didn’t watch porn and used the ol imagination, I realize that I was imagining myself in scenarios like the one Bear was in. Taking away the autonomy of girls I know or have seen, and getting them to have sex with me. It feels so disgusting. forcing someone to like you or get with you with a magic wish is just so twisted and evil, I don't even want to imagine anything like it. It is as if I made a wish identical to Bear’s, and all of a sudden, girls were in porn-like scenarios and having sex with me.
A big thing is just the empathy that I have for Nikki. >!Shes in hell the whole time and comes through the fake persona a few times, just revealing how tormented she is.!< I would never want to be responsible for that and thinking about it makes me sick. I like to think that if I was in Bear’s situation I would care about the person that I have subjected to what is basically r*pe and taken away her autonomy. I would never want to get with a possessed corpse that acts out my lustful wishes, and watching or imagining it feels so much more wrong after watching the movie. I feel that most guys would obviously like to imagine not letting their lustful fantasies take over a real relationship. But recently when I have started to lust I have just thought about the horror of what I was doing and basically felt post-nut clarity before the feeling even starts.
I have struggled on and off with lust since I was 11, and I am glad this movie has opened my eyes to the horror of lust and the control it has had over me. This movie turned out to be one of the most helpful things I’ve ever done for fighting this struggle. It used horror to show me how evil lust is and I think for that reason horror movies can be very valuable to Christians.
Has anyone else had a movie or any piece of media hit you this hard and rewire how you see your sin struggles?