I told my parents I’m atheist
Ok I thought I’d share my story now that things have calmed down emotionally and because I feel like I’m a bit of a unicorn lol, this happened back in Jan now I 20f am financially dependent on my parents and as recommended in this sub I was planning on waiting till I got older and independent to tell my family.
On this Sunday I was helping my mom in the kitchen and she began to ask me why I don’t like attending youth group or going to church events and I avoided the question until she pushed me into telling her that I was atheist she was upset and hurt (her words) and she would’ve been fine if I believed in any other religion but to hear that I didn’t believe anything she couldn’t understand. Anyway she asked me how long I knew and why i didn’t tell her that I was questioning my faith and that as my parents they felt hurt that I didn’t come to them to help answer my questions and they could’ve asked they apostle to help (which is very unwanted spotlight) I told because I already knew the answers and she said thats not fair because it seemed like I already made up my mind about how I felt and I didn’t give them a chance to show me the way .
Anyway on Monday after work they spoke to me again for like 3 hours trying to understand why I don’t believe but that went nowhere and they said that they can’t change my mind and they will try to support me even though they disagree but I still need to keep going to church and keep up the act because of my family . I also told her that I was scared to tell her because as much as we have a great relationship Ive seen far too many parents kick their kids out for this so it made my anxiety go up.
It’s been a couple of months now and nothing much has changed our relationship hasn’t suffered I’m still living at home and I’m studying now and plus now i don’t have that hanging over me however I still dread attending church , (I’m still deciding if I plan to tell the rest of my family).
Sorry if this is long-winded I suck at making long stories short😅. But yay for being one of the stories that didn’t end up in total disaster 😛.
P.S. I want to say that my parents have always been on the more progressive side of things which I chalk up to them being millennials .