Roommate gave notice, but won't let me show the room
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It's literally insane.
They got to see the room before they moved in, now they won't let me show the room after giving notice.
They insist it's clean but I have to explain to them, NOBODY literally NOBODY in their right mind is going to rent a room without seeing it to confirm it.
Other redflags of their behavior:
- Insisting on paying everything with cash (which I forced them not to due to massive anxiety spiking and time wasting behavior, now they pay me through their girlfriend (?) on venmo. Huge redflag. (ETA: They even wanted to LEAVE IT ON THE DINING ROOM TABLE FOR ME, THATS A NO FOR ME DAWG)
- Pushing my boundaries. They don't have a car, asked for rides constantly, when told no they asked to drive my car, which I also said no to, I let them use it once for an emergency, and then I had to say no and to deny them multiple times. (like dealing with a toddler, after this I basically cut them off completely except to exchanges via text)
- They now drive a car with expired plates. (yikes) and park it in my driveway blocking me (thankfully they move but, wtf expired plates....)
- Came on to me multiple times early on in the move in. Lots of talk about church religion and "are you saved". (I am polytheist and do believe in jesus, out of many gods, I pray a lot but I do not go to church) All that went away when I turned them down sexually.
- Said wasting my time was "no big deal" When confronted on making me wait for rent payment multiple times ("sorry I decided to hang out with my friends instead" literally flaked on me when we agreed on a time) or to pick them up from work/gym to make a rent payment, this is when I demanded they not pay cash anymore. (Im an uber driver! TIME IS LITERALLY MONEY!!!!!!)
- Claimed they were OCD related to cleaning, tried to make it my problem instead of cleaning anything themselves. Tiny specks of dirt = paragraphs texts from them, or paragraphs about close the cabinet doors that takes 5 seconds to do. Never once have they contributed to mopping, vacuuming or other deep cleaning (shared bathrooms, front foyer). Left expired food in the fridge and dishes in the sinks for weeks. They are 45 years old.
- Constantly uses my cookware. Leaves it rotting in the sink.
- Borrowed my mattress without asking for a day, returned it when I caught them moving it w/o asking. Explanation for using it was insane and nonsensical. "Girlfriend has none so I'm letting her borrow mine so I'm borrowing yours for a day." Would have been a simple yes if they had asked! (I have two spare mattresses.)
- When they first moved in all talk about the property was that it has "so many problems" but when asked to list any to give to the management multiple times, he never did so, even after I mentioned some (some old caulk and a few faulty lights). The property is old but it's livable and not trash. It has high ceilings and lots of window light. We don't have any pest issues, no smells, nothing dangerous or stinky.
- Wanting the deposit back for the "last months rent" thats not how deposits work!
TL:DR
Roomate wont let me show the room, insists its clean but behavior is super sus and I'm freaking out not being able to show the room to get a new tenant after he gave notice. Demanded to pay rent in cash now pays it through his new girlfriend (he basically is living with her now, but still has access to this place), drives a car with expired plates (!) blocks my driveway, gets mad I took a photo of it (for safety reasons!)