I (20f) have been in an online relationship with my (23m) boyfriend for a year and I’m not doing enough apparently, what am I not doing?
So, to start, this started yesterday… He was being painfully dry, barely talking to me, two word messages, three words if I pressed hard enough about something…
Then this morning, it was like… talking to a wall, barely anything… and I asked, “What’s going on? Did I cause this?” and whatnot. And he said, not entirely. So I still asked more, because how am I supposed to fix a situation if I have no clue where to start? So, he sent a long text, to summarize, I’m not doing enough, I’m not separating girlfriend from friend, so it feels like when he’s talking to me he’s talking to just another person. And well, I definitely don’t want that, I am his girlfriend, I don’t want to be any less, because I love him.
As a girl who’s very physically affectionate, like cuddles, kisses, anything to be touching my partner, because that’s who I am… I don’t really know how to express anything into a text… And I some things, I don’t want ti say because what if its cringy? what if he gets the ick… And when he tells me his plans that involves another girl, even if they’re just friends, I get like really anxious and really jealous and then I just shut down, because god knows that they’re truly doing (He doesnt give cheater.) but a girl has crippling anxiety…
I don’t know, I just need advice on how I can be more engaged, more present, more loving???