Is discord drama caused by projection?
After watching the video on "is chat smarter than a med student?" and hearing about how projection plays into how a therapist behaves, it really tweaked my brain to think about past discord dramas. The kind where, you think you're good friends with someone you game with for like 6-8 months almost every day and then it seems like suddenly the other person is taking everything you say 180 degrees from how you intended and then it quickly escalates to blow up the friendship and often, also the community as well.
You can have voice, you can have text, occasionally, you might even have video chat on discord for your interactions, but you're missing at least 50-75% of the communication information available in the interaction. It seems like all it takes is one bad day, one silly mistake, one bad joke, one random comment, one unknown trigger and it's a snowball to disaster that can't be stopped. I know that a lot of people who game, do so as a cope, and quite a few are also neurodivergent or drunk or high and that can be problematic from a social perspective for sure but I think it goes beyond that. Beyond the 2 people stuck together on a desert island issues.
I've been known my whole life for being a "good listener" but after that video, I wondered is the space I provide for people to tell me their stories, their ideas, their problems, a space that I've come to accept that others just seem to gravitate to, is it causing people to project their insecurities onto me? Is the natural "silence" of discord causing people's unconscious to project negative traits (a reflection of their own issues) onto others which then escalates because 1) it's not real, it's fantasy, the other person can deny it (as they would because it's not true) but since it's from inside yourself, and feels real to your mind, you have a hard time believing it 2) it feels like the initial problem/misunderstanding/mistake broke the trust because you're not getting enough feedback on the situation/sincerity of the other person or they aren't of you, 3) it hits you right where you're vulnerable because it's the projection of your own insecurities which makes it harder to forgive in the first place, 4) if a person has social issues to begin with, they might consult ai or other people for feedback on the situation and in the case of the former, get sycophantic reinforcement of their righteous indignation or in the case of the latter, start rumours within the community of bad behaviour that may not have existed or have been that bad, that often never get corrected for even if the initial problem is resolved. The "bubble" or desert island environment feel of discord also tends to enhance "immediacy"? of points of contention and the urge to think it out rather than talk it out. That rather than actually giving people the benefit of the doubt, you become paranoid and overthink the interaction because you just don't have enough emotional information to feel secure in their good intentions since text and vc alone are poor communication mediums in a heated situation. Don't get me started on rise to "paramountl importance" of "receipts" with current generations either.
So, am I on to something or not? Is it inevitable that drama will happen when you become friends since we're all subconsciously projecting our insecurities onto each other? Just wondering and thought this community might have some added insight. Thanks in advance :)