AITA for wanting to sleep in later than my partner?
I (38F) work in tech, and my schedule is pretty flexible, plus I work from home 2 days a week. I like to sleep, and in the mornings I'm a pretty light sleeper. If left to my own devices, I would probably sleep from 9 or 10 pm to 7 am every day. This actually works out perfectly with my schedule.
My partner (36M) of 4 years works in construction and has to be to his office by 7 am. He has a 40 minute commute, so he sets his alarm at 5:30. We have had talks before about his alarm going off 3-6 times in the mornings, so he has recently adjusted it to where he can wake up after about 2 alarms.
The problem is recently that after his alarms goes off he lays in bed messing around on his phone, which in itself wouldn't be a terrible thing, but he fidgets, and yawns, and the screen is bright, etc. (Some mornings he also turns down the ceiling fan, which we both like to sleep with, but I guess he doesn't like it with his arms out of the covers while he's using his phone? IDK). It's generally distracting when I'm trying to fall back asleep after his alarms.
I have asked him a few (like at least 3 times) to get out of bed and leave the room to go use his phone, so I can fall back asleep after his alarms, which always wake me up (for context, we have a 1000 sq. foot house with no other occupants, so he can have the rest of the house to himself). He says he doesn't want to, that he is quiet in the bed, and that it's cold out there, and that it's "just a few minutes" (this morning it was 15 minutes) and that I should just sleep through it. (He is a heavy sleeper, recently almost slept through an earthquake)
And I've really tried, I know if sucks to get up in the dark with the other person still sleeping, and it IS a little cold in the winter, and that is must be so much more pleasant to stay in bed, but I am really really tired of waking up at 5:30 every day. I've bought a sleep mask, and I've tried really hard, but the alarms, then the 10-15 minutes of him fidgeting just wakes me up enough that I can't sleep after that. At this point, after asking a few times, it just kind of feels disrespectful as well, as it seems like not a huge inconvenience to get out of bed before looking at your phone, when it is something that I've expressed a few times. It seems (to me) like a willing sacrifice I would make for a partner. AITA?