u/CzechNao

So I’m a 19M and due to personal reasons I lost all my social circle and close friends and that put me into a deep depression that took me around 2 years to recover from. I’m taking online classes so really don’t interact with people my age, and this had led to me feeling really lonely to be honest, recently I’ve been trying to go out more even if I’m on my own to try and make friends but I don’t really see people my age and I don’t know where to find them, the only interaction I had was with this one girl, I approached her, made a conversation and actually she was really nice so I asked for her ig and she gave it to me but when I tried talking to her 1 day later she was rude and didn’t even answer after a couple of texts, then I saw she got back with her ex.

I’ve talked about this feeling with my my therapist and she recommended dating apps and I did like the idea, I want to meet new people, make friends and if I meet someone special that would be even better, but my main focus is to
socialize but it’s been a week, 2 dating apps and I have 0 likes in both, I even got tinder premium just to get more matches but I have 0 likes. Is it my appearance? My profile?

How can I improve my looks so people will like me more?

I think my hair always looks puffy and so big so I tried pushing it as down as i could without gel cause I want a natural look

So the first picture is from March 27, that’s when I decided I was actually gonna take this seriously and try to change my physique. Before that I had been working out for like 2–3 months but honestly I wasn’t consistent at all. I would leave workouts halfway or just skip most of the week. Same with food, some days I’d eat better and other days I’d just eat whatever.

Since March 27 I’ve been more consistent. I started tracking calories and protein. I’m 18, 185 cm and around 81.5 kg right now ( the other 3 pictures) . I usually try to hit about 150g of protein a day, sometimes a bit more.

For calories I’ve been eating somewhere around 1700–2200 depending on the day. I’ve also been trying to understand carbs better and actually use them, like eating them before training so I have more energy.

My goal isn’t to get huge, I just want to look more athletic and lean

I’ve been consistent lately but I still feel like I might be missing something or not doing things the best way. I follow an A/B routine I go one day, rest the other and go the next day and so on

I’ll put my routine below so you can see it.

day A
chest shoulders quads
incline press 4x6-10
flat press 3x8-12
lateral raises 4x12-20
partial lateral raises 2x15-25
chest fly 3x10-15
triceps rope or dips 2-3x10-15
squat or leg press 3x6-10
leg extension 2x10-15

day B
back core hamstrings
pull ups or lat pulldown 4x6-12
row 3x8-12
lat focused pulldown 3x10-15
face pull 3x12-20
leg raises 3x10-15
crunch 2-3x12-20
romanian deadlift 3x6-10
leg curl 2x10-15

I just want honest feedback. Am I doing things right for my goal? Should I change something with my training or how I’m eating? Is there something obvious I’m not seeing?

I’m still new so I’m just trying to learn and not waste time doing things wrong.

Thanks.

Any opinions on my new haircut? I let the barber decide what would suit me best but I’m not sure