Met my wifes alter, want to make sure im helping and knowledgable
Hi! A few days ago I met my wifes alter explicitly for the first time but he says hes been my boyfriend since the beginning. My wife has been dealing with "auditory hallucinations" but its just been him. He decided to speak with me and let it be known it was him and hes been way nicer inside since. Im not super sure what im doing here. My wife and I (and my new old boyfriend) are poly so thats all good and not that weird for me. The weird part is two partners but one body i guess. (Not bad for the record) Im honestly enjoying getting to know my boyfriend and when hes been present before without me knowing. I also miss my wife. We are going through a lot of transition right now and he seems to be taking control as he did to protect in the past. I feel odd and confused and so many things. Im nkt really sure what to do. He promised me to be nicer to my wife from now on and i told him Id help him get to know himself and what he likes. He hated a candy my wife loves and loves my candy that she hates lol. Hes clearly been through a lot and hes so angsty and i tell him hes "dark and broody" but he prefers "dark and mysterious" When i tell him hes trying to hard to be emo he says it comes naturally and gets flirty. Hes aromantic and my wife is so romantic and affectionate. They are so different but I am bi and poly and here for them both. I hope im doing the right thing. This is quite a shift in our lives together. Is there anything that would be helpful to know?
Tldr: met my wifes alter who has apparently been my boyfriend since the beginning according to him. How can i be a good partner to them and is there anything i should know? He is clearly very hurt and does a lot to care for their body and support my wife even though he can be very mean. I miss my wife lately because i see him more lately. Hes been being nice since we explicitly met but hes tired of feeling like he has to take care of everything i think