u/DIJ2001

As-salamu alaykum everyone,
I’m a 24-year-old woman, and I need some honest advice.
Financially, I’m not in a terrible position. Alhamdulillah, I have food, I have a roof over my head, and I live with my mother, so I don’t have to pay rent or major bills. I’m grateful for that.
But the truth is… I always wanted more.
For the past four years, I’ve been obsessed with making money through Forex trading. During those four years, I haven’t made a single dollar in net profit. Instead, I’ve spent around $4,000 on courses, funded challenges, and other trading-related expenses.
On top of that, I lost around $11,000 chasing meme coins because I genuinely believed crypto would make me rich overnight. Later, I learned that what I was doing was haram, and I sincerely regret it. I ask Allah every day to forgive me.
The worst part the money I lost and waking up everu single day I wake up hoping Forex will finally change my life. Every loss makes me emotional. Every winning streak makes me greedy. I feel like my entire identity has become tied to becoming rich.
When I look back, I feel like I spent the last four years chasing the dunya instead of building myself. I neglected my personal growth, my career, and sometimes even my relationship with Allah because I was constantly looking for the next trade.
Now I’m 24, and I feel like I have to start over.
Part of me feels ashamed because I could have spent those four years learning real skills, finishing certifications, building a business, or simply becoming a better Muslim and a better person.
Has anyone here gone through something similar?
How did you let go of the obsession with getting rich quickly?
Please don’t sugarcoat it. If I need a reality check, give it to me. I think I’ve been lying to myself for years, and I need honest advice more than comforting words.

As-salamu alaykum everyone,

I’m a 24-year-old woman, and I need some honest advice.

Financially, I’m not in a terrible position. Alhamdulillah, I have food, I have a roof over my head, and I live with my mother, so I don’t have to pay rent or major bills. I’m grateful for that.
But the truth is… I always wanted more.
For the past four years, I’ve been obsessed with making money through Forex trading. During those four years, I haven’t made a single dollar in net profit. Instead, I’ve spent around $4,000 on courses, funded challenges, and other trading-related expenses.

On top of that, I lost around $11,000 chasing meme coins because I genuinely believed crypto would make me rich overnight. Later, I learned that what I was doing was haram, and I sincerely regret it. I ask Allah every day to forgive me.
The worst part is the money I lost and that every single day I wake up hoping Forex will finally change my life. Every loss makes me emotional. Every winning streak makes me greedy. I feel like my entire identity has become tied to becoming rich.

When I look back, I feel like I spent the last four years chasing the dunya instead of building myself. I neglected my personal growth, my career, and sometimes even my relationship with Allah because I was constantly looking for the next trade.
Now I’m 24, and I feel like I have to start over.
Part of me feels ashamed because I could have spent those four years learning real skills, finishing certifications, building a business, or simply becoming a better Muslim and a better person.
Has anyone here gone through something similar?
How did you let go of the obsession with getting rich quickly?
Please don’t sugarcoat it. If I need a reality check, give it to me. I think I’ve been lying to myself for years, and I need honest advice more than comforting words.

A little background about our life: my mother and I came to the Netherlands from Somalia with the help of my aunt from my father’s side of the family. She paid for the whole process and helped us get to Europe.
Now, 15 years later, my uncle (also from my father’s side) wants to bring his daughter from Somalia to the same country where we live. The whole process costs around €15,000. My mother wants to help because she feels like she should give back for the help we once received.
The problem is that my father’s side of the family is actually fairly wealthy. They’re not extremely rich, but they live in villas in Somalia and Dubai. Still, my grandmother is asking my mother to pay €6,000 of the €15,000. I think that’s a very high amount, especially because there are other family members with much more money than us.

My mother says she will give €5,000, but she doesn’t even have that kind of money. She constantly complains that I don’t have savings, yet she also wants to borrow money from me to help bring them here. That really irritated me. Every time I try to talk to her about it, she shuts down completely.
I asked her, “What if I didn’t have the money?” and after that she got very angry with me.
So now I’m wondering… am I wrong for feeling this way?