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I really want understand the concept behind belittling, using derogatory language “(shuubo, siilkay safrisay…..)” towards our Somali sisters who chose to marry into different cultures. Why does it get to you on what a woman chooses for her life?

On the other hand why is it so hard to hold another man accountable for his despicable actions in our community, eg Cabdiraxman qoys, Jiheeye, this TikTok username strongfamily44 and so many others. Why does fellow men applaud for these men? Don’t you think you are normalizing behaviours that will affect your daughters and your sisters? How would you feel if this was your daughter?

A girl was clearly violated in broad day light in Mogadishu few weeks back** **and very few of you spoke up and the women that did, were labelled as feminists ( I m not talking about the few that protested). Just few days after that, those boys did that same act on hooyo Somaliyed.

Isnt using** وَقَرْنَ**** فِى ب**ُيُوتِكُنَّ to silence our sisters and suck up the bs when more than half our community are raised by single mothers who hustled for us; hypocrisy, double standards and weaponizing diinta against us, when it’s clearly the culture that’s messed up not diinta?

Where do you stand as a Somali Muslim brother?

Coming back to the uk after many years away. I've started feeling like Britain is just another foreign country. Anything you feel like is helpful to know for teenage returnees?

Hello everyone who's reading this im currently struggling with a really big problem regarding fgm, i am 14 years old and i am not mutilated but my sister was and she has since advocated against it and protected me from being cut in my younger years, however, my mother is suggesting that i should be cut as soon as possible because of my "big chest" basically slvtshaming me, and i am afraid she will drug me and cut my clitoris off. I live in the gulf wjere it is illegal, how can i defend myself? Are there fgm support communities on social media? Can anybody help me?

Has anyone noticed how a lot Somalis have severe anger issues. They do not know how to regulate their emotions. They love to cuss people out for the bare minimum. They will see Somalis with a different opinion and world view and they will call them every name under the sun.

Even in a lot of Somali families. The constant habar and cussing each other. It's a thing that has been passed down from generation to generation and become a norm and honestly it's not a flex at all. I'm embarrassed. Thank god my own parents are not like this but I have other family members who are just so angry for no damn reason.

To all the girlies and guys who had a small nikkah or kept their wedding really simple, I'd love to hear about your experience.

I'm currently brainstorming ideas and would love to know what you did instead of having a big traditional wedding. If you don't mind sharing and about how much did everything cost?🤣

I'm also curious how your family and the Somali community reacted. Were they supportive, or did you get a lot of judgment and unsolicited opinions? Not that I really care what people think, but I'm interested to hear how it went for others lol.

It seems from the article that any revenue collected whether its in Puntland or other regions are solely meant for Mogadishu and Turkey and not for the rest of Somalis living in Somalia.

If you were diagnosed as an adult what were your struggles before the diagnosis?

For those not on medication for whatever reason, what do you do to manage?

Asc to all the wonderful men and women of r/somalia. Xaalada kawaran? Have any of u travelled anywhere this summer? If so where are u at right now? Manabad tagtay?

If u haven’t travelled yet are u perhaps planning on travelling soon? Where are u headed? Maxalisay how u will get to ur hotel or whatever from the airport? Bruhhhh why am I asking these random questions😭🙏🏾 but yeah lemme have all the details idc.

I was recently in Palermo Sicily (Italy 🇮🇹) and I honestly had a great time. Me and 11 other friends we got ourselves an Airbnb and this house was niceeeee bro holy shit. It was very hot tho I was dying over there. The mukeef was on all night😭 I ate a lot of cannoli yall ever tried that? Really nice dessert. But yeah wlhi tell me what u guys been up to so far.

This is great news. Let all the AMISOM troops leave the country. After 18 years of accomplishing next to nothing, it's hard to imagine how their departure could make things any worse.

Please answer. This is necessary research

Asc, im looking for the really good pure Arabic nasheeds, none of the hype stuff just the good old poetry from salafs.

I remember I once stumbled upon it but cant find them now.

I asked a married friend how his wife was doing and he said that was disrespectful and I should never ask a man how his wife is doing and instead ask how his family is because it’s more respectful. But he has no kids so to me it’s weird to ask how the family is when the family is just one person. Is it actually disrespectful?

I’m Somali and I’m wondering if this is actually common or if my family is just telling me it is.

Growing up, my dad would always charge my sisters and me for rides. Even in college, when I had no car, broke, barely surviving off a part time job, he’d drive me to class and then ask for anywhere from $20–100 afterward. Once we started working full time, we were expected to help pay rent and household bills while still trying to get through college and save money ourselves. My dad mostly only paid his share of the rent and rarely helped us financially.

My mom bought my siblings and me our first cars (total 3 cars) but my dad sold two of my siblings’ cars and pocketed the money and never chipped in for anything because he always said he was broke despite working full time. I feel like my mom only bought the cars because she saw how all the other Somali parents were providing for their children and were helping them so she felt like she had an obligation to. Recently his car stopped working, so he’s been using mine. I genuinely don’t mind helping him, but he constantly returns it on empty. I finally asked if he could at least put some gas in it, and he got upset, saying I’m his daughter and he shouldn’t have to. My mom agreed with him and said it’s my obligation as a daughter and he can take my car whenever he wants and return it on E.

My youngest sister is now in college and only works a small part time job. She told us she avoids asking our dad for rides because she’s afraid he’ll ask her for money afterward. The little money she earns goes toward things like food, textbooks, and other school expenses, and she’s trying to save for her first car because she doesn’t believe our parents will help her. Instead, she’d rather take the bus and train than ask our dad for a ride and end up owing him money. My other sister and I have rearranged our work schedules so we can take her to and from class, especially since some of her classes end late at night and we don’t want her feeling like she has to pay for anything. My sisters and I made this decision for ourselves and don’t expect anything from each other because it just doesn’t feel right to have to ask your immediate family member to pay for things like gas or a pack of gum.

The part I’m struggling with is that I do love my parents and would give them the world if I could. Alhamdulillah, my sisters and I help pay their bills and support the household. But I can’t help feeling hurt because when we were growing up and needed financial help, we were mostly on our own. We had to start working at a young age to buy the things we needed and wanted, and once we had jobs, we were expected to contribute to rent and other expenses while still trying to pay for school, save for cars, and build our own lives.

After I brought up the gas situation, my mom started cursing me and calling me a bad daughter. She said I shouldn’t expect anything from my parents and that there are children who would give their parents everything. I understand that, and I truly want to help my parents. I’m not upset about helping I’m struggling with the fact that it feels like we’ve always been expected to give, but whenever we needed help ourselves, there wasn’t much support. My mom says this is the culture and that adult children are supposed to pay for everything. Is this actually common in other Somali families, or is this just my family’s dynamic? does anyone else’s father do this?

So as the title suggests left a highly toxic Somali owned company based in the UK last year.

Recently their past has caught up to them , a TikTok page showcasing the ceo lost tribunal court case (sexual harassment against female )

They for some reason guessed it was me and instead of seeking evidence aimed to slander my reputation via smear campaign on Instagram.

Of course they had nothing on me (alhhumdulilsh for my clean reputation ) hence they resorted to malicious lies and accusing me of using filters 🤣

I’ve already gotten in touch with police but am contemplating whistleblowing on their illegal business.

I feel I’m not a confrontational person but they took their little game a little too far by using my location area via HR breach as I used to work there.