Hi there. 👋 looking for 20+old male or female friends to chat about lighter topics and just have good clean fun talking about anything book/film/show/comic related. I'm not looking for a relationship, respectfully! Just simple easygoing, respectful chats. I also love talking about animals and nature! Feel free to pm if you'd like to have a no-pressure, lighthearted conversation ☺️
I'm lowkey a loser lmao, and not because I take cat selfies. I'm just a general failure. Life didnt turn out the way I wanted it to. I thought I'd be married with kids by now, my own house, a minivan, all that fun stuff. But I do love my cat. And the other cat. I have two. I'm drunk, I'm gonna shut up now. I hate my life but do these cats ever make it just a bit bearable lol. That and alcohol.
I tried to add a selfie with said cats, it did not work. Damn you, r-vent
P.S. Please don't judge me I'm having a really bad month
The second photo is of her back, showing screws. The third photo is to show how small she is--just a bit bigger than beanie baby puppies. There is no writing/words on her that I was able to see.
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Disclaimer because I don't want to waste anyone's time--I am not looking for a relationship. Friendship only :)
I'm up for respectful, engaging and lighthearted conversation with anyone 20+ or older, any gender, and location isn't an issue as I love talking to people all around the world and learning about different ways of life :) feel free to pm!
My brother and I were cleaning out the garage and he got set off. He got set off because there were his daughter's toys and sleds in the garage. It's not his garage--it belongs to our mom. It's her house.
And when he saw the toys, he snapped. He started shouting and cursing at me in front of his 5 year old daughter, who I look after every weekend, in front of the entire neighborhood, didn't stop when I started crying, didn't stop when I told him this is teaching her its okay to talk to women like this. He said he had to do it to teach me a lesson. He told me to go cry to our mom. The worst part is that his daughter didn't even seem fazed at all. And I realized he does this so much she is used to it. He did it to every girlfriend, he did it to his daughter's mother, he's going to eventually do it to the girlfriend he has now, who also has a daughter. They all said he did, and I have always believed them. He's had the cops called on him before. He does this.
The neighbor asked me if I was okay, if I needed help, once my brother left.
If he does it again, I'm going to call the cops. I don't deserve to be screamed at and belittled, and his child doesn't deserve to see it. It's wrong. You don't scream and swear and berate women, especially women helping you raise your daughter, especially over something as innocent as toys lying around.
I should have called them the first time he did it. But the next time he does, I'm going to.
EDIT-- I'm overwhelmed by what happened today, but also the support here. For some reason, it's only really just hitting me that is IS domestic abuse, it's dangerous, and I need to make a change before it gets worse. I don't know why it took me so long to understand the reality of it, but it's finally sunk in.
I'm going to talk to a DV counselor, find housing as soon as possible, and report him to the necessary authorites as soon as myself and my two senior cats are someplace safe from him. I have no doubt, now that I have a clear head, that if I called the police, he would make me pay for it, but also, my mom would kick me out, without question, as she always takes his side. So I'm going to get me and my cats out first to someplace safe, and then talk to my niece's mother so we can work together to keep my niece safe as well. She is currently at her mom's for the rest of the week, so she is not in danger at the moment.
I know I failed her by not doing this sooner. I've been taught to minimize his behavior, to blame myself, to just try and not set him off, to "be better". But I see the how wrong it all is, finally. I'm going to break this cycle, not just for me, but for my niece. I won't fail her again.
ONE LAST THING--I should have mentioned this already--some people seem a little confused why I didn't just tell him off--and that's a valid question. Its because he has gotten physical before. He's punched me. He's dragged me down the stairs. He has hurt me physically too, so the reason I was crying rather than sticking up for myself was because I was absolutely terrified. I am not a fighter. I'm not brave or strong. I am small. He is physically huge and has and will put hands on women. This is why I'm contacting a DV shelter and going to get out before it escalates again. I can't fight him, but I can escape, and focus my efforts on getting my niece safe too.
I'm up for respectful, engaging and lighthearted conversation with anyone 20+ or older, any gender, and location isn't an issue as I love talking to people all around the world and learning about different ways of life :) feel free to pm!