u/DamnAmIreallyanonym

PLEASE HELP ME OUT PLEASE
TLdr: left a toxic long-term relationship where my ex both treated me badly and put me in financial trouble. He gave me gifts but also borrowed large amounts of money from me, including convincing me to take out credit, which I now have to pay back. When I ask for my money, he refuses and uses the gifts as an excuse. I’m broke, mentally exhausted, and cut contact for my peace, but I’m stuck dealing with the debt he left me

i dont know why i went back to our chats I guess I forgot everything bad he did to me so to remember it back, i read our texts again and i feel extremely overwhelmed with anger now.

I wont go into the details of what happened as it is a long story of my suffering that cannot be felt through words.
One day I finally broke up with him and I was completely done deep down from that day.

However we did talk after that and in my eyes I knew theres nothing further to this and for him he thought I had came back again like we did 100 times in the span of one and a half year “ relationship “

Now coming to the main part:
Yes I admit he bought e a lot of things, I would literally deny it and tell him to not do it and all but still hed buy something small / big for me often.
Ofc this changed witth time where his efforts totally shifted and i was extremely broke but the relationship was on such bad terms that I couldn’t even ask him for 20 bucks anymore.

Now in meantime While I admit he spent maybe 2k on me willingly on gifts with small things each time,
He needed help and asked me for bigger amounts at once -a few times.
I once lend him 400ish and next time 250 and maybe 300 again and ONCE he was coming to visit me which he was talking about doing for an exact whole year ( we live 4 hours apart only )

He apparently couldn’t have saved up enough and I had taken out a credit because he asked me to… ( he said do it for yourself and me we can use it its for our future … )

And when he was coming to visit me I sent him 600 Euros that he asked me for..

And I am more broke than him.

Please dont judge me on whatever I did because I hate myself already for thinking I am so smart yet was humiliated in SUCH manner.

Now I hate talking about money, I hate asking back for money but the problem is his denial.
Everytime i literally begged him to pay me back because I took w credit because HE TOLD ME TO
He will bring up that he bought me so many gifts and I AM ASKING FOR MORE MONEY!!!!!!!!!!
i cannot get over this obscene and disgusting words of denial he lives in.

I have been poor and broke for years now i do work but I have bills to pay wnd all and this is what he left me with.

He left me with his debts meanwhile he humiliated me throughout the entire relationship.

How is he putting gifts that he bought me willingly in comparison to me clearly lending him money in difficult times in such big amounts I genuinely dont understand this cruelty

I literally tolf him to just give me the half.. give me bread crumbs because genuinely I have to pay off this credit.

You cant imagine how mentally exhausted I am.

I was so fed up of him that I have forgotten about him and chose my peace instead of staying in touch with him for the sake of the money I wont even probably get.
He said things like are u forgetting how mny times i ordered food for u now u are asking me for more

One very important thing that I also bought him a lot of expensive things where he always found a way to nag about.
From bed to expensive perfumes to clothes that I never ever brought up to him.
How does that make sense???? I am absolutely tired.
Please someone tell me how can ai make him at least pay for the financial damage he caused me if I cannot make him pay for my mental health
Please help me out