Her (21 F) and I (20 M) have been off and on taking for almost a year now. She’s always on some push-pull and although it sucks sometimes, I’ve been able to understand why she does it, and I don’t blame her or feel angry.
On this most recent talking segment (typically we will talk anywhere from like a week to two weeks before she starts pulling back) she had invited me over to her house for a movie and some wine. We planned that weekend and she wanted to call practically every night prior. It was great, and the date went great. That was the first time we had actually gotten together in person and she showed extreme affection and connection with me.
Two days after that I felt her start to pull back again but not fully I kinda let her do so and stopped initiating the conversation. She didn’t reach out to initiate. But it’s now been a week since we last talked and her birthday is tomorrow. I plan on just saying something light “happy birthday, I hope it’s a good one” but I don’t know if that’s the right move. She’s voiced to me several times she likes me and both of us don’t really talk to anyone else that way. But I would like to try and actually build something deeper than a great few weeks that feel forward moving followed by radio silence.
I guess apart from the birthday, what would you actually recommend I do here?