u/Dangerous-Captain726

Has anyone gone ahead with an embryo transfer around a major family bereavement or end-of-life situation?

I’m really struggling with what to do and would really value hearing from others who have faced similar decisions.

We’ve been trying to conceive for 5 years, with multiple miscarriages, IVF cycles, losses, and a very long road to get here. We are due to do a frozen embryo transfer soon (our second last euploid and it is day 5 of the cycle), and this embryo feels incredibly precious.

At the same time, my husband’s father is very unwell and likely approaching end of life. He is drifting in and out of consciousness, has stopped eating and drinking and palliative care/morphine have now been started.

My husband is understandably exhausted by years of waiting and uncertainty, and part of him really wants something positive to hope for during such a difficult time. He really wanted us to have a baby while his father was alive and I think he's hoping I might fall pregnant in his father's last days of life.

At the same time, I’m worried about the timing of everything. I’m concerned about trying to navigate a transfer, possible funeral arrangements/family gatherings/travel, grief, emotional exhaustion, and the two week wait all at once. I’m also worried about stress and whether this is the right environment (ie. stress hormones etc) for a transfer, even though I know people say life never fully pauses for IVF.

I’m also trying to work out how best to support my husband through what may be the loss of his father, while also protecting this process and our own emotional wellbeing.

I know nobody can tell us the “right” answer, but I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has gone through something similar, whether you proceeded, postponed, regretted waiting, or were glad you delayed.

Feeling very lost and torn at the moment. I also need to call it in the next 24 hours given I have uterine PRP for thin lining booked and the cycle cancellation policy kicks in.