Am I wrong for wanting to drop my best friend of 10 years
My best friend and I have been friends for almost 10 years now, we have never had any issues up until she started dating this guy. She moved in with me after she was quite literally fleeing her state from an abusive ex and the jumping into a relationship with this guy she met online who happens to be my boyfriends brother who I also met online.
They get together and they’re fine the first 4 months of their relationship then they start constant arguing from day to night and my boyfriend and I AND HIS FAMILY tell her to leave him and hang up on him cuz he would ignore her or play music In His speaker to make her mad too. Eventually after constant fights they break up and everyone is happy, his family, my family, HER.
Now months later I make a joke insulting him and she jumps to defend him and I’m like 🤨 tf? And question why she’s defending him all of a sudden and come to find out they’re talking again and calling while I’m out at work all day. Fast forward again to get to the main point, I find out he’s coming out to visit her for her birthday. I’m pissed tf off and he knows I don’t fw him atp but I put my feelings aside for her since it is her birthday and I don’t want to cause any problems. He gets here one day before her birthday and I can’t help but to look pissed off and ignore him completely but then I gathered myself and went and said hi and joked around. The whole week passes that he’s here and we were fine and joking the entire time except twice.
Now he’s gone and we get a message saying he’s talking all this shit about me being fake and rude as fk and how I was a b the whole time when he spend over $100 on dinner when i literally begged to help and help cover the tip. So I find this out and my boyfriend and I are both like wtf? Because we were good the whole time and joking and acting like we were friends again. I unadd him on everything because this is the like 10th time he’s talked shit about behind my back to his family who loves me btw and doesn’t like my friend which would’ve been their daughter in law also eventually. So after all that and months and months of her picking him again and again after constant warning about how he’s terrible to her and hers terrible to his family and ME…I just don’t know what to do anymore. I want to tell her how I don’t understand how she can want to be with someone who’s constantly talking shit about their best friend behind their back and saying lies about them and their family and if she chooses him she can pack up and get out of my house cuz I’m over it…am I the asshole?