Did anyone rebuild their life after years of porn addiction and isolation?
I’m a 20-year-old guy and I feel extremely lonely and mentally stuck in life. I’ve been addicted to porn and masturbation since a very young age and I feel like it slowly destroyed my confidence, social life, motivation, and mental state over the years.
I barely feel like going outside, talking to people, or socializing. Even when I want friends or love, I isolate myself and stay inside. I overthink everything and feel scared of being judged or seen as weird/creepy, especially around women.
I also struggle a lot with body image and confidence. I used to be around 90kg and now I’m around 76kg, so I improved physically, but I still feel insecure about my looks, body fat, attractiveness, and overall presence. When I was going to the gym consistently for 3 months, I genuinely felt more confident, social, and alive, but after stopping I slowly fell back into bad habits again.
Some days I feel motivated to change my life, build confidence, get fit, improve socially, and become disciplined. Then suddenly I relapse into porn, masturbation, scrolling reels, isolating myself, and avoiding life again. It feels like I keep escaping reality instead of living it.
I want to know if anyone else went through this in their early 20s and genuinely improved. How did you do it?
I want honest advice from people who actually rebuilt themselves from this kind of situation.