how to talk about anxious attachment
so i (19F) have been talking to this guy (24M) for about 3 months now. we’re both currently in tough financial situations and live with our parents, haven’t been able to finish school/get jobs, etc. we live far away from each other and met online through dnd. we’re not really anything serious, and we’re both fine with that, but we also both feel like we could be serious someday because we really like each other. i’ve been alone for a while because of a family situation and it’s been nice to actually connect with someone emotionally and have someone i can rely on again. we just really click, have similar interests, and we’re both autistic so i think we have a good understanding of each other in terms of communication. however lately i’ve been feeling really anxious and panicked whenever he doesn’t feel like hanging out with me, like more than i should be feeling. i like to always be on facetime and have the presence of another human whenever i can. he mostly likes to have his space, i think he gets overwhelmed, which is totally okay. i have pretty bad anxiety already so i didn’t think much of it at first, but after doing some research im pretty sure i have an anxious attachment style. i had a pretty unstable childhood that im still healing from, and because of it im really sensitive to criticism and rejection, and i crave attention more than id like to admit. i really hate uncertainty and not knowing when someone is going to talk to me again. i find myself having the constant urge to blow up his phone with messages, and i start crying whenever i don’t hear from him after a few hours (kinda pathetic, i know). i haven’t mentioned any of this to him and i don’t really know if i should or not. he knows that i have anxiety and that i don’t really like being alone, but that’s pretty much it. i should mention that he is definitely not the problem, he never ignores me or anything, this is purely a me issue. should i talk to him about it? we haven’t been talking for that long so i kinda feel like it isn’t my place. what would i even say? i don’t want to scare him off and lose something good, but i also am really struggling emotionally and i think having him aware of my struggles might be helpful