Throaway account. This guy messaged me a month ago through Grindr. I thought he was attractive and we seem to be very compatible sexually (haven't had sex yet). He's a 45 year old man, almost double my age, and he's a really successful legal advisor, that is to say, he's loaded.
First of all, I want to say that this is not your typical twink-daddy situtation. I am bigger than him. I'm 6'1 218 lbs (186cm 99kg), he's 5'10 176 lbs (179cm 80kg). Even though he's got a toned/muscular build, I'm more muscular than him as well. I bring this up because, although it's probably stupid, the fact that I'm more physically imposing than him makes me feel even more like I'm taking advantage of him for some reason.
The first time we saw each other was after he was nagging me for a while. I was hesitant at first because I don't usually go out with men his age. One night he messaged me and told me he was passing through the area I lived, asking if I wanted to meet up and go for a walk. I agreed and when I met him I found myself enjoying his company quite a lot. I'm new to the city and he told me he'd show me around and invite me to all these fancy places.
Since then we've gone out two times more. We first time we went to the city center and we went to a restaurant that I wouldn't call fancy but definitely more expensive than what I can usually afford as a broke grad student. And the next time we had a drink at a very expensive hotel where I had to wear classy clothes. I had a great time with him on both occasions and he, of course, paid both times.
Now, we're very different people. I'm a very left leaning hippie/punkie with a mullet, he's a fancy high society suit. But even though I was never really intersted in it before, I felt, and feel, quite excited to experience this sort of high society life. He said next he's taking me to his other house in the city where he has a pool, and to this really exclusive rooftop club thing, etc, and I feel very excited to go to those with him.
The issue is that I've realized that maybe I'm just using him to experience this high society life. Am I just taking advantage of his money and status? Is he my sugar daddy? I would hate to be doing that, I enjoy his company and I like him, but I have to admit that part of his charm is that he's this rich and sucessful man.
And, this is very important as well, I probably don't really want anything long term or serious with him, I'm just having fun. All of the above compounded with the fact that sexually I'm the dom and I'm stronger/bigger than him makes me feel like I'm taking advantage of him. Would it be best for him if I broke it off?