u/Dangerous_Nerve2139

This last holiday season my family did things different than we have done in 36 years. We all kind of did our own things because my grandmother was sick and my grandparents were not up to hosting the holidays like they have my whole life. This was totally fine with my husband and I so we could focus on our own little family without feeling rushed around to be elsewhere. The weekend after Christmas my husband and I took our two boys to my parents house to open their christmas presents and hang out for the day.

Within 20-30 minutes of being there my dad started talking to my husband and I about a family vacation he wants to plan for the family (my little fam, my youngest brothers fam, my parents, & my middle brother w/ his son) October 2026. He wanted all of us to go to Florida for a week to hang out with extended fam (my dad’s oldest sister & all her kids and grandkids). My husband and I were on board until he started talking about accommodations.

My dad started talking about getting an AirBNB and the cost being split 5 ways (each family unit pays a portion). [A little back story, my middle brother and his son live with my parents 100% free. My middle brother has no job, not sure how he could pay his way but not my monkey not my circus.]

I simply said No & my dad lost his s**t. Immediately started yelling to get out of his f***ing house, that I am no longer part of the fam, the works! So with my children in tears because they didn’t even get to open their Christmas presents, I said “say less”, packed my family back up in the car and left.

My mom didn’t do anything to stop it, just let it happen. So I went to my safe place, my grandparents house (my moms parents) to let my kids open their gifts.

Had my dad given me the time of day to speak he would have learned that I wasn’t saying no to going all together, I was saying no to sharing an AirBNB with everyone due to issues that have occurred when we shared AirBNB’s previously. My dad immediately assumed it was because my middle brother and his fling at the time would be going. This was also the second time my dad had kicked me and my family out of the house because of issues with my middle brother (him & I do not get along).

So AIO for choosing to go no contact with my dad over him kicking us out? PS we do still see each other at family functions because other family members invite my parents & im not going to force my choices on others. I just ignore the fact my dad is there. my children on the other hand do not ever let him forget he kicked us out on Christmas EVERY time they see him.