Boyfriend (33M) deleting texts between him and female coworker (22F).
so let me preface and say that ever since my boyfriend started this job I’ve had an uneasy feeling about this girl. when they first started working together he told me how shes attractive and that’s why they have her at the front at the desk ( she’s a bank teller) and that everyone in the office thinks she’s pretty. it made me super uncomfortable and he told me that it’s just how his business and the world is. Time went on and she would be texting my man outside of work about non work things, which I told him made me uncomfortable and he told me to grow up. He constently calls everyone in his office (bank) c*nts, idiots, etc except her, everytime with her he only has good things to say. Also for context she’s 22 and he’s 33.
so now a few months ago he tells me at work how he’s so mad cause his bank branch manager banned all bank tellers from going in his office and that they all like him and help him out. Then 20 minutes later I overhear him on the phone with his head boss saying how only this specific girl was banned from going into his office. so he lied to me and told me it was all of them but it was only her.
now fast forward to the past 2 weeks: he got her a new job at a different bank and told me “ he got her a new job to save our relationship since he knows she’s been such an issue In our relationship” saying after her last day that he wasn’t gonna speak to her anymore.
yesterday we’re sitting in the car together eating lunch and her name pops up that he texted her and I was like oh that’s strange, I didn’t get too upset until he opens the text thread and all their old messages are gone and deleted. I asked him why he deleted their texts and to show me the deleted text messages. He refused and refused and refused. I even told him I’m leaving if you can’t show me the text messages because I’m not gonna have secrecy in this relationship. He said then fine leave. We got into a huge fight which was not good and finally he starts slightly scrolling upward and wouldn’t let me scroll at all and I told him to tell her that I said to stop texting him which she replies ” lmfao” . which then he doesn’t reply and stick up for me. This was all on my lunch break at work so his excuse for not showing me the texts is “ everytime her name pops up you get upset and I didn’t wanna show you anything 5 mins before you walk back into work, I’ll show you when you get home” . I get home after work and he deleted everything permanently.
I had told him as a lie that I already saw the texts of him saying hey beautiful to her and everything and he said “ it’s not in the context you think, it’s not in a sexy way or anything“ and I told him I was making that up and that i didn’t actually see anything but now I know what he was saying at the very least. He then backtracks and says idk what I said to her before I can’t remember I’m not gonna fact check and say I didn’t say that or not, I probably didn’t say that then. So clearly again lying.
He then tells me how he has told her she’s a good looking girl and very smart and nice and that she will find a good job anywhere.
which comes to the point that this girls been causing issues our whole relationship and he’s done nothing to set boundaries or respect boundaries I’ve set.
do you think that he is hiding something or that I’m overreacting?
TLDR; boyfriend deleting text messages between him and female coworker that I’ve had issues with for awhile and that was banned from going in his office a few months ago. He claims it’s not but I don’t believe it