Who's feeling grumpy because I have a rant about men in the lifestyle!
In my region (PNW) we find a good number of sexy partnered men in the lifestyle. That is not my rant. Also I've found most single guys are fit, pleasant, and very careful to respect boundaries. But I do have a complaint: lumberjack beards! They disqualify so many men. I just do not want to get with a guy whose beard could soak up a whole bowl of soup.
PSA for reasonably fit dudes: please for the love of God trim your beard so ladies like me will want to fuck you. (Unfortunately ladies who love the ZZ Top look, apparently a surprisingly large group, won't want to fuck you anymore.)
And another problem I am having is that lots of attractive and interesting guys just don't bring it that hard in the bedroom. Or at least not nearly as hard as my husband. Yes I do pivot back to my husband and we often enjoy a bit of FFM fun while the other guy is resting but that's not as exciting to me as a more well balanced dynamic.
The last couple of ladies we played with got this look like they hit the jackpot and were eager to schedule another playdate. I enjoyed spending time with them and their witty, well groomed partners but I'm really looking for more play in my playdates.
Anybody else want to gripe about this with me? 😂 Beard gripes also welcome! (Pro or con, your choice.)