u/DaniellaShortz

Does anyone else experiences this?

On the outside, I function pretty well. I go to work, show up, and get things done when I need to. But when it comes to my own life or goals, it’s completely different.

I constantly just distract myself, procrastinate on tasks or self-sabotage any "progress" I make. Scrolling on my phone, evenings spent watching netflix, overeating sugar etc.

What’s frustrating is that of course I know what I need to do, but it just feels like I can’t stay consistent with it.

Some days I actually wake up and manage to take action on things and workout/study/clean etc, but the minute I slip up or miss a day everything feels pointless and so I give up once again.

It’s almost like if I can’t do it properly, I struggle to keep doing it at all.

I’ve started wondering if this might be linked to perfectionism or fear of failure, but I’m not fully sure.

Does anyone else deal with this? If so, what do you think actually causes it for you?

One thing I have realised about making progress on your goals is that it truly isn't as easy as just doing 'X, Y and Z'.

I feel like 99% of people intuitively know what is the right thing to do, but they still don't do it.

It's like something else gets in the way.

I've been reflecting on this and I think some of the "main blocks" that stop people are the below:

Fear of failure. People procrastinate on their goals and avoid doing them because deep down they are scared and so they stay stuck in the same situation. (E.g someone who hates their job and want's to change career but constantly procrastinates applying to new jobs or updating cv because deep down their scared the new job could be worse)

Beliefs. They don't believe they can change or they don't realise how many limiting beliefs they use as excuses. E.g the person who doesn't believe they can lose weight and become healthy isn't going to then make the effort to do that. Or the person who believes that they are a victim of their circumstance because they have dyslexia or they have X diagnosis or they have this or that, limits themselves from actually taking action on what is in their control because they feel powerless to their circumstances.

Perfectionist thinking. People have a very "all or nothing" mentality and so when one day goes wrong, or they eat one bad meal or they wake up later, it's like the whole day is screwed and suddenly now the week is ruined and it's hard to get back up from it.

Distractions. People have wayyy to many easy distractions in their life and so they never truly have to face the discomfort of facing themselves. They just fill up all their time with netflix, scrolling, games, youtube etc and so they stay stuck for months/years due to this alone. Also as we know these apps/games are highly addictive so they end up becoming dependent on them (subconsciously or not)

Stress. They either have a stressful life such as busy job, kids, no time for anything or they don't know how to manage their stress and look after themselves properly e.g come home and just scroll for hours and eat crap instead of doing something less stimulating like have a hot bath and relax, and eat good meal. Overtime when their constantly burnt out and stressed of course it's hard to focus on anything.

I would love to hear your opinion on this...what do you think stops you from following through, even when you know what to do?

Anything else you would add to the list?