We all got certain blind spots in our persona - things and patterns we dont notice outselves. My profession is identifying all sorts of patterns, and I need some advice on improvining my grindr profile for hookups.
When I travel, I have no issues hooking up. Its fairly easy..
"Horny? Very. Can you accom? yep. Lets meet.."
I've done this in USA, UK, Gran Canaria, Germany and even in conservative rural Ireland with ease.
At home (Copenhagen) it is completely dry for me, to an extent where I keep reexamening what on earth I do wrong.
My city has an unusual skew of bottom guys, which complicates it quite much since I am vers and don't want to top every time.
The pattern is that I have a good conversation, that eithers ends in no responses suddenly, or in dudes very interested until we get to where and when.
The thing is that for me - it been like this since i was in my twenties. Its nobody fault and not an issue - I just asking for advice on how to change my pattern.
Hooking up is a numbers game right? This seems like a 'me problem' and I would like your help to change it.
So what is my goal here?
Cassual encounters, no relationships. Just sex, and I can travel or accommodate often.
I do have a strong bareback breeding kink, and this is what I am after, but at the same time I dont really do saunas and bathhouses.
How is my own appearence?
Not the pretties man, but neither ugly, just not your usual gay type.
- I'm clean shaved, babyface
- Brown hair ponytail (naturally, still not graying out)
- 40 yo, but am often told I could go for 30.
- Sunglasses and leather jacket type.
- Tall, stocky build (189 cm, 92 kg)
- I dont look very gay.
How is my persona?
- Masculine
- Well liked, and have plenty of friends
- Not really a part of the gay community
- Introverted Extrovert (Ambivert)
- Happily married in an open relationship with my husband
- Good job, well connected and good circle of close friends.
What do I like?
- Masculine guys
- 18-32 yo, preferably tall stocky guys, early twenties
- Cute guys with babyface
- All body shapes honestly
- Foreskin
- Preferably, but not limited to gingers
- Wet hole, preferably pre-lubed with cum
Where I usually skip?
- Hairy or bearded guys (stubbles pass though)
- Cut guys (not a problem in scandinavia or europe)
- Trans/Cross dressers (- not that I mind, just not attracted to fem).
I'm usually top with guys below 23ish, and bottom with guys older than ~23.
The more hairy the guy is, the more reluctant I am to top.
I do have body pics on my profile, but face is limited since I am open about looking for bareback hookups.
TL;DR - help me create a good Grindr Profile!
Right now my profile just says:
40 "BBreed me.."
So tops out there in Europe, what do you look for when browsing bottoms?
Should I have two grindr profiles, one for my topping and one for bottoming?
Should I lie myself younger, because I can?
Is it game over at 40?
Speak your mind and be blunt...!