r/grindr

I’ve been in Grindr for a few years now, using the app and meeting once every blue moon. I’ve been curious about bottoming and being sub and sucking some dick. I’m from a hardcore Mormon family haha and definitely prefer girls and pussy in the long run haha. Definitely just like to have fun with guys( I don’t like kissing, I know I know haha)
I love the idea of anon assup facedown and have gone to a few of those as the top and have always loved them.
Today this morning I invited a guy over to find me ass up for him, ( he has a 8.5 in dick) I’ve never even fucked myself with a dildo before. Most ive ever down ever with my ass is a handful of times I’ve put a buttplug in and really enjoyed it(honestly don’t know if it’s weird here or not haha but I loved the feeling of the plug sliding in and out of my hole). Besides that the most I’ve ever done is again a handful of times have had my own finger in my ass.
Whenever I watch gay porn I’ve noticed I’m mainly getting turned on about watching the guy take the dick.
Idk I’m so new to this and I don’t know if I’m going about this stupidly or irresponsibly, I’m very curious to see what this community would say. :D

(Edit cause I forgot haha, we canceled earlier cause of short time, so I’ll be inviting him over later today haha, am curious about anything I should be thinking or aware about, or for prep, thank you :p)

I was on Grindr, and a guy at 4:00 am at night asked if we wanted to meet and I said yes, but he asked money for a taxi. I said I will just pick him up in car and he agreed and sent me his actual location and asked how long it will take for me to get there. After that, I ended up blocking him bc I thought it was a scam. Was it probably a scam? I do think he was the guy in his picture and he was very hot and his pictures said taken on Grindr so I don’t think he is a cat fish.

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A few days ago i saw a tik tok or a reel where the a top was like fucking / humping the bottom in a missionary position and he was constantly saying thank you with every thrust . It got me so turned on but i could not find any more reels like that or dont know what it is called . Can you help ?

I sent a cock photo (tasteful btw) by request to someone and the two comments received were:

Where are my balls? and a critique on a cock ring I was wearing in the photo.

Well, funny story, I had testicular cancer last year which: A. Removed a ball, and B. Prevents me from wearing a cock ring ONE OF THE WAYS IT COULD BE WORN.

The person promptly blocked me before I had an opportunity to follow up that above message to bitch them out.

People, just unmatch with people you don't find attractive. It literally isn't that hard.

Hey. UK based dev here, early stage idea and looking for honest takes from people who actually deal with this.

After testing, how do you usually show someone else your results? Screenshot, NHS/sexual health email, “I will show you in person”?

I am building something for private, consent-based sharing with verification and expiry, instead of forwarding PDFs or photos that are easy to fake or leak.

Not advertising a finished product yet. I want to know: would you actually use that, and what would it need to do for you to trust it?

Thanks for any blunt feedback.

I spent two years suppressing my bisexuality because I was scared. But I think now I’m ready to explore. I’m mostly attracted to feminine guys. For context; I’m a “pretty boy” with a nice physique. Would I do well on grindr?

I can’t figure out what’s worse, dealing with the completely blank profiles or guys that refuse to read yours. Either way it’s a huge waste of time.

I see profiles in the “for you” section, and the only way to message them is to subscribe to unlimited. But I look at their distance and see they’re 4 miles away so I just scroll until I reach the profiles around that distance and the “for you” profiles don’t show up. I might add a search filter I saw on their profiles such as top, body type, or their tribe, but still nothing shows up. Am I just being baited into paying for unlimited? Are those profiles even real? The more I try to use this app the more it infuriates me, it feels like it’s becoming more and more unusable unless you pay for subscriptions.

This guy messaged me and said he was gonna come over. He has been over 3 or 4 times before. I sent my address, and I could tell that he was on his way over because his distance was updating as he traveled and he was getting closer. Great!

He gets within *300 feet* of my apartment (usually this means theyre at the entrance lol), and messaged me and said ‘1 minute’. Great! I get situated and remind him of my access code, unit #, etc.

When he said 1 minute, stupid me, I assumed hed actually come up quickly since he was RIGHT outside. 10 minutes or so pass, and I think hmm, maybe hes held up on the phone or something.

Then he went offline and vanished for the next ~ 60 minutes or so. Lmao

He messaged me just a few minutes ago and said sorry, and that he was tied up with something. He asked if I still wanted to meet up and I said sure, as long as you werent fucking someone because I dont want dirty dick.

His response: Just pussy

I lectured him a bit then blocked his stupid ass. Man I get so tired of the disrespect and the straight up games.

He claims he never reinstalled. It's an utter lie, correct? Is there any conceivable way this could possibly happen?

In the past he asked me to have Grindr installed because he wanted traffic to his instagram. I said no, he ended up doing it anyway. I laid some boundaries and tried to heal the trust. I thought I was making good progress.

Today we traveled out of state and I saw what I am pretty sure was a grindr notification. I brought it up to him, and he told me he never did. While I stepped away I reinstalled the app and logged in, and took a screenshot. I showed him the screenshot of his profile which has his photo on it and "online 1 hour ago". It had the airplane symbol showing he had traveled.

He also said last night while driving through a rich neighborhood that he was curious who was on grindr around there.

He said it's possible he deactivated his account and didn't delete it.

But I can't believe that it'd be possible for him to even appear on the grid after about a week. He's allegedly not had it for longer than that. Even a deactivated account, doesn't that immediately remove you from the grid?

He's lying to me, right? Please tell me it's possible I'm wrong.