r/grindr

We all cannot deny the bots that swarm the app. I noticed something about them though: they aren’t as prevalent or nearly nonexistent in the cities like Seattle or Orlando. Meanwhile in rural places like Montana, they are everywhere. OF, trans baddies, sugar daddies spam my messages daily.
Has anyone else noticed this?

I am seeing an influx on actual (not bots) women in my area being on grindr. I had the worst experience. I was texting to someone about getting spanked and only after I sent my pics, the other person said that they were a woman. I asked her what she was doing on the app and her response was "being bored of straight men." ??

Loads of profiles depict a person that is clearly a woman. Weither these pics are from google or not are kinda irrelevant to me because I am on grindr because I want to meet up/chat with men. I get a text from a woman at least once a week and it annoys me.

Today was the most recent of several times where I have a hookup, he gets off and I either have to *explicitly* ask him to help me get off or he just dips I’m left to take care of myself.

I try to only hook up with people who seem decent, can hold a conversation, seem nice and considerate enough.

We exchange a little oral before moving onto the main event (I usually happily give long and enthusiastic head). Once we’re having sex, Most guys last a couple of minutes and then it’s done.

I don’t take forever to come but I need a little more attention than that. Now I am a trans guy, so I know my orgasm is a little more subtle than a cis guys, but they could at least ask? I’m having fun but I didn’t make any noises that would have made it sound like I came… Another recent time, the guy came, started talking about a bunch of mundane stuff while I’m still laid out totally naked for at least 20 minutes before I had to explicitly ask him to go down on me.

When I top and when I bottom, you’d better believe I’m putting in the *effort* to make sure my partner comes, more than once if I can help it. I will work until it feels like my hands or arms or tongue are about to fall off because I love to give my partner pleasure. I can’t understand not wanting to give your partner an orgasm.

Because of just generally being busy and not having a lot of time, I don’t actually hook up that much. It then sucks all the more to finally make the time, find a guy who seems decent, take on the assumed risk that comes with a hookup, only to left once again thinking I’d have been better off just jerking off.

Is every attractive guy a scammer or prostitute? No I’m not giving you money for a hookup, WTF is wrong with people?!?

My face is covered on my profile picture. I message this guy "hey", send my album, he likes what he sees, we start texting, in between I go to holiday for 3 weeks, I comeback, we start texting again for another 4 weeks, we finally we try to meet up, he forgets what I look like, asks to see my pics again, I send him the same album, then boom he blocks me. I refuse to believe someones sexual preferences changes in less than 2 months or if looks are that important for you ask for them sooner I guess?. I'm not mad that I didn't get laid, I'm mad that my time got stolen

​I’m a 27yo guy living in a homophobic/Arabic country. I fully accepted my sexuality about 3 years ago and started using Grindr and Tinder.

​Appearance wise, I’m a hairy, manly-looking guy who prefers to bottom or vers. I’d say I’m decent-looking, clean, and I always respectful and very nice with people. However, these past 3 years have been incredibly difficult. I constantly get blocked or ignored the second I send a face picture. In 3 years, I’ve only managed to hook up about a dozen times, and Tinder hasn't led to any meaningful relationships either.

​I’m starting to wonder: Is it common for hairy, masculine bottoms to struggle this much globally, or is this specific to Arabic/conservative countries?

​Before coming out to myself, I was healthy and productive. Now, after 3 years of app rejection, I feel lost, drained, and excluded by the very community I thought I belonged to. It’s taking a toll on my mental health, and I'm starting to feel "ugly" and like I'm wasting my youth without enjoying my sex life.

​Have any of you been in a similar position? How did you handle the isolation and the app fatigue? I would love to hear your stories or any advice you have.

I wrote another post a couple of days ago where people were very defensive about blocking others immediately after exchanging pictures if they weren’t interested.
Now I’d like to turn the question around and ask: which of these outcomes do people prefer when someone isn’t interested?
If you’d like, please explain your reasoning or share an anecdote about a similar experience and how it made you feel.

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I’m like truly genuinely wondering because the rates are so unreasonable I feel like there’s no way they possibly think a lot of people are going to purchase upgrades. Not that I want/need said upgrades but is anyone here like a marketing expert who knows why they might legitimately not want people to buy upgrades? wtf?

Is it to make them seem more exotic, or is it to signal that they won’t be around for long?

I’ve made three profiles and have gotten banned for fraud or spam each time which is insane because I use pictures of myself unlike those countless bot accounts. Never asked for money or rugs. Why am I getting banned when they do nothing about the actual bots? It’s so frustrating and unfair. Like genuinely f this app and the idiots who run it I hope someone from their office reads these posts like f them and their stupid ai

Hi im a 19M twink, was wondering if there's any way to get off Grindr more. Every night or when I finish work i cannot stop myself from going on there, then feeling bad because I'm a virgin and I'm on the wrong app. Sometimes I make friends and have a cute call, but I've only met up a couple of times from the app. I really want to get off it, but every time I delete it i reinstall it.

ANY TIPS?