u/PestoOverflow_808

Heyy, just came back after doing a "DL" meetup after a few mintues of texting which ended up being a scam I refushed to be a victim of lol. Honestly looking back I guess before I've met up with people like this maybe twice or thrice and we ended up having sex. Hell I lost my virginity to someone I talked to for like 10 minutes.

Obviously Grindr is used for quick hookups a good amt of the time but I think most people agree that it's best to have at least a little bitnof a convo before meeting up that is more than "Hey (cute them hot/cute), thank you, are you down for rn, yes, blah blah here's my addy) . Also just for safety too (I was definitely a bit naueous driving over to their place rn).

Anyway enough with the blabber. How often yall do a meetup where it's only a couple messages, maybe pics,and then an address within a short time period, espicially with DL folks, and how often does it result in flaking

At home I'm pretty consistent with my diet. Don't get me wrong once or twice a week I eat around 2500 calories, but it evens out from having a ~700-800 cal deficit at 2000 or some days eating as low as 500 from lack of hunger.

However one thing I've always struggled with is binging, espically with free food. The reason I got to 230lb in the first place is from stress binging everyday. I ate like 5000 calories a day freshmen year.

I've been trying to do some healthy things when I'm going out with family, which is doable because I can always afford to go to that Chinese buffet that is 18$. However, when it comes to catering for instance I just go nose deep into the food. Yesterday I had 8 breakfast tacos at a company social, and the week or two before I ate like 4000 calories because we could order anything we wanted and the company would pay for it. This espically happens at social events given im already a huge introvert

I've still managed to lose some weight as I've made some lifestyle changes, but I feel like this is one of the things holding me back. I just can't refuse eating 30-50 bucks of free food, espically food that's a pain to make. Probably gonna force myself to write a short essay detailing what exactly causes me to binge like this lol.

As a guy before I really explored my sexuality I was yearning for the hugs and the cuddles, let alone the sex and to have some sort of intimacy. I've always been the shy and awkward type and never rly had great looks so I never gotten any attention from women and it ate me up more and more to where I'f worry alot about being alone forever.

However in the past year I've experimented with guys and its been great.I've been popping off with dudes because dudes love me and call me hot and sexy and hit me up on the apps. As of right now I have a few FwBs I can snuggle with and watch Youtube and while its not a relationship thing and im not in love with them I've been recently getting what I've wanted from men, espically since they're kind and considerate 😁😁. It's honestly been helping my confidence and I feel like in the past few months I've really been feeling more secure in myself and that I've had holes that have finally been filled (NO NOT IN THAT WAY, GET YOUR MIND OUT THE GUTTER :/)

Honestly looking back, I question what would happen if I never experimented or never ever took a liking towards guys?? I see alot of my straight friends struggling to get more than a few matches on Tinder or Bumble and meanwhile when I go to a new city I get like 20+ notifs on Grindr. Don't get me wrong guys suck in their own way but as someone who's bi I'm hella grateful I get to experience the pros of both men and women. I couldn't imagine being on one end or the other and honestly I pity those who are. One of my closest straight friends said he would kill to be bi like me haha.

Jus wondering who feels the same, lolz.