Should I change my wedding dress/elope?
My mom (64F) accidentally sent me (30F) a screenshot of a text she sent someone of me in my wedding dress saying “evidently she has no intention of losing weight before the wedding 🤣” It has so severely hurt me. My sisters told me I should still wear my dress and that it looks beautiful on me and that my mom is wrong and just being a b*tch. My mom and I have a really close relationship and she watches my kids while I’m at work. (I work full time and sometimes even over 40 hours a week or 12 days straight). Im 5’6 and wear a size XXL/16. The dress I got is from Selkie and something I’ve been SO excited for and saved up to buy. I based the size I bought off the measurements chart. The bottom of the dress fits me perfectly, but the top won’t zip up all the way. Her friend is a wedding dress seamstress and she said she would ask her about taking out the zipper and installing a corset back instead so the dress will fit. She meant to send me a screenshot of her friend happily agreeing to fix the dress, but forgot to edit out her hurtful comment. I feel so embarrassed and sad and honestly I’m worried the dress just has bad associations now. I’m worried on my wedding day while getting ready I’ll just keep thinking about my mom’s comment instead of feeling beautiful on my wedding day. My fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves and trying to keep it as affordable as possible. Should I just still get the dress altered and get married as planned? Or should I just elope and sell the dress? I’m so torn and heartbroken over this and don’t want to regret my decision. I’m scared I’ll regret wearing it and being in front of everyone in a wedding dress in general, but I’m also scared I’ll regret eloping. Advice???
UPDATE: My mom finally gave me a real apology and said she was going to FINALLY(!!!!!!) go to therapy to work on her body dysmorphia and childhood trauma. Thank you everyone ❤️