Moved country for my relationship, have two kids. I want to move home. Where do I go from here?
long story short, about 10 years ago I moved to Norway to be with my partner. I had a good job and social life back in England but was offered a job and felt I was young enough to give it a try. 10 years and two kids later, everything looks good on paper. But I am simply unhappy. I want to move home, work in the industry I was in before and restart. My partner is not interested and for good reason.
We moved into a nice house in a great neighbourhood and our 5-year old loves it. I know it’s a good situation but ever since our 1-year old was born I’ve been in massive doubt and very depressed. I feel isolated, alone. I don’t know if I even love my partner anymore. I don’t get much fulfilment from being a parent and feel like I’ve made all the wrong decisions over the last decade. We are going to counselling but in my heart of hearts the resentment of the move for the relationship, and the fact that I’m trapped here due to the kids, is eating me up and I don’t know where to go from here anymore. I feel like I’ve realised that I really am a people pleaser. I have had many moments where I thought about breaking up and ignored them because I didn’t want to hurt her.
I know this is a mess all of my own making I take responsibility for that. I just don’t know where to go anymore. Any advice is welcome.