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We're in a relationshop for almost 3 years, both university students that live together.
At the end of last semseter - which was on the end of february, he said he doesn't know if he'll take more courses on the next semseter. He have no money from being a student full time, his tests went horrible and that makes him sad. So the semseter opened and he decided to take a break from uni.
I assumed he's gonna fix his money problem and find a job ASAP, but he didn't. When I asked about a job and hows the search going he didn't say much. After a month I was angry, angry hes playing video games and smoking weed all day - so we had a fight that maybe I should've been more nice that day
I went to my parents home for a while, when I got back we talked, he explained hes depreesed. I explained its a turn off and breaking the sadness starts from going out, that it seeems to he doesnt want to earn money for himself or to even pay rent instead of his parents, or even to have money to be able to buy me stuff. (Not talking about a designer bag, but an income, so he cant take me for dinner, or small gifts) I explaind how I like getting stuff for him, like Lego, or a game a few times a year.
He said he'll get a job and we made up.
It's been 3 weeks since. He found a job that makes him work only 2h a week. And it bothers me, bothers me when I work way more than him and still study. Bothers me when I return from work or from uni, and I find him on the couch playing video games and when later he'll go to his friends to get high. Bother me when I ask about hes day, he got nothing to say. If you got a money problem, why not fix it? Why not save up?
Is it my expectations that are too high too fast? should I be patient? I feel like saying something will do nothing...
TLDR - ny bf is a student who took a break from studying, I expect him to work, but he doesn't