I (29M) have commitment concerns with my GF (31F)
As the title states I’m having some serious concerns about future commitment in my relationship. Some backstory, I 29M and my girlfriend 31F have been dating for over three years now. This is a medium distance relationship as we live about an hour apart and she still lives at home with her mother. It seems every time I try to bring up planning for the future/her moving in it just seems to get shut down or topics get changed very fast and it’s slowly starting to wear on me mentally. Originally the reason for not moving in was a sick grandparent that she was assisting with and I completely understood that and didn’t bring it up. That grandparent has passed a couple months back and it still seems like the thought of starting our life together is so far back in her thought process. I’m in kind of weird spot because I don’t want to seem pushy due to the fact if it’s not something she wants to do I’m not trying to force anything. I just feel like it’s a natural step to take moving forward in our relationship as we’ve discussed marriage and both agreed living together before is a good idea. It just doesn’t add up to me as we go on trips and it’s never an issue for her to leave, but as soon as we get back it’s like she goes right back to her house and we’re back to the medium distance thing. Does this relationship just seem to have stalled out ? Any tips on how to further this discussion without seeming like I’m trying to force something would also be appreciated.