M38 married to f39 need help sacing my 20 year marriage i love her but she saids her spark is gone . How to fix what is broken?
I want to save my marriage of 20 years im married to f39 we have 4 kids together 14 year old ,7 year old ,5 year old and 3 year old . she told me her spark is gone im trying everything I can but she won't talk back and keeps telling me to stop I suggested marriage counseling it got rejected. I even try just talking to her and listening to her everything. I dont want it to end like this she keeps telling me she wants adivorce i been out of work because my oldest son was a premature baby who is autistic he dont sleep good at night and he has a lot of medical problems. On our last child after he was born she changed i was working back then and told me she dont want to beca stay at home mom so she works now .i love her with all of my heart . I dont want to lose us im fighting to save our family. how do I help get the spark back to save us ?