
Fear of making a mistake is THE mistake. A note to my fellow players with game anxiety
Im one of those players thats competent and decent, but nothing brilliant or extravagant.
However... when I play in a social league or against people that are okay I feel like Prime Steven Gerrard lol
Anyways...
Sometimes I play with people that are a lot better than me, or I end up in games that are so crowded that it feels impossible to find space, and that's when I start getting this weird feeling of anxiety and slight panic knowing that if I get the ball, I'm probably gonna have to make something happen quickly and play mostly off instinct
And I noticed something...
When that feeling hits, I stop scanning. I stop doing fakes or moves. I stop holding the ball for any reason at all. I start playing "safe"… but safe usually just means predictable, and sometimes I’ll force passes or lose the ball just trying to shield instead of turning and going at my opponent or into space.
I stop taking chances, stop trusting myself, and I end up playing far, FAR worse than the player I actually am. I don’t take people on, take my space or take risks because I want to build trust but reality is I’m not even trusting myself
Recently in my Sunday league one of our defenders scored an own goal, and I could immediately tell he was getting in his own head and starting to freeze up
So I told him
"Hey don't worry about the own goal, shit happens... you wanna know what's worse than the own goal itself? Panicking afterward and getting in your own head. That’s a much bigger mistake than an own goal"
He nodded
A little later he got the ball again, and I noticed he had a bunch of space ahead of him, but I could tell he was about to force a pass to me because he was scared of messing up again
So I point to the large area in front of him and said
"No, you take the ball up, you have a lot of space"
He drove the ball up, pulled his markers close and played a great pass to someone who was now open due the opposition being dragged in. He played great the rest of the game and he got more confident in carrying the ball up too.
So that just got me thinking...
I think a lot of players' biggest opponent isn't the person in front of them, it's their own head
Nobody's perfect, in fact I see an insane amount of fantastic players make mistakes all the time, but they usually get more hall passes than we realize because they keep being productive. They keep playing, keep taking chances, and keep trusting themselves. They keep playing their game
So if anyone needs to hear it...
Don't be afraid of losing the ball, just play your game
Because fear of failure isn't protecting you
It's usually THE mistake
TL;DR
The fear of making a mistake is a far larger mistake than pretty much anything you can do on the field... including scoring an own goal