Is it fair to hate my husband for this
So this might be a long one… I always heard of women hating their husband during pregnancy, but I couldn’t see why I would, given that my husband has been amazing. Since finding out I was pregnant, my husband has been very supportive and satisfies all my needs. However, something happened that has made me despise him.
We decided to take a small babymoon trip with some of his family and some relatives from out of town. I wanted to have a good time and not make it about our pregnancy or anything baby-related because eventually our lives will revolve around just that. Well, everything revolved around baby topics and their 5-month-old baby. My husband included — he didn’t pay me much attention to me. I honestly would have preferred to stay home.
The breaking point for me was when we went to an amusement park. Since I couldn’t get on any of the rides, I got stuck caring for the 5-month-old while everyone else went off for the day. My husband was actually the one to ask me infant of the parents if I was okay with taking the baby. He put me on the spot so I couldn’t refuse. That night I broke down to my husband about how used I felt, especially because I didn’t even want to go to the amusement park to begin with. He made it seem like he understood and apologized.
Anyways, we ended our trip and came home. The next week, his friend was graduating in a different city. I told him to go without me because I didn’t want to hold them back so they could drink and have a good time. We ended up having the conversation below:
Him: They’re asking me something, but I don’t want to ask you.
Me: What is it?
Him: Never mind they were kidding.
Me: What did they say?
Him: If you could babysit, but they were just kidding.
Me: You told them I wasn’t going?
Me: 🖕🏼
Me: Send them that.
Him: Damn babe, they were kidding That’s a little much.
Me: And you for even considering asking me!
I exploded because it felt like he didn’t understand at all what I had cried to him about the week before. So were my feelings valid? Was I doing too much? I wasn’t so much mad that his friends asked (even though they were kidding). What upset me was that he considered asking me because I don’t think he was kidding. Idk why he thought it would be funny to begin with.
Well, we talked about it later that day, and he said he was joking, but nowhere in his messages did he say that. It felt like he was trying to cover his ass. We somewhat fixed the issue, but yesterday (a few weeks later) he told me that those same friends would let us borrow a tent, chairs, and tables for our baby shower. I said that was great, and he made the comment, “Yeah, and you want to be rude towards them.”
I don’t know if it’s my hormones, but I felt so much rage over that stupid comment. It was never really about his friends — it was about HIM. He obviously never understood where I was coming from when I thought we had fixed it. Today I don’t even want to look at him.
So, if whoever made it to the end of my post… am I just letting my hormones get to me? Sorry this was so long! If something doesn’t make sense, I can clarify.